When u go & see a girl for the first time for your arranged marriage, what type of question you must ask. When u like each other and get to know each other wat conversation is to be made. Pls somebody help me......
2007-03-11 18:29:35 · 15 answers · asked by raj dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now listen Dude it may look very odd but after reading so many questions out here relating to matrimonial problems I want you to be very frank & ask all such matters that may not trouble you in future nor make you post question after marriage how to get rid of her on various grounds. First thing you must ask her about all her previous affairs & depth of such relationship, this I feel necessary because recently in one question a husband wants to get rid of his wife only on this ground that she posed to him as virgin before marriage but was found not so after marriage. Now this seems to you as very out dated matter but it is a fact. Here I want you to disclose to her all your previous affairs & their depth least she finds reason on this ground for get rid of you after marriage. In short I will suggest be frank to each other & give correct information to each other of all what you two were till now, such attitude will make you prepared for the future . If you two agree on this issue & are prepared to forget past of each other then & there it it will help in developing a peaceful matrimonial home in future. Rest your likes & dis likes of all things from dowry to food to politics to sports to movies & its stars to various forms to TV serials to computer games to web chatting to types of sex to children to their education to her working to friends of both of you to family relatives etc should also be discussed in details as these are the grounds that become reason for domestic discomfort in matrimonial homes. I ask you to discuss all these because I have found these as few of the grounds on basis of which both husbands & wives they ask questions here in this forum seeking help after the marriage. It is always better to finalize all such issues before you start a matrimonial home. Hope my advice will be taken by you in right sprit & help you to come to right decision.
2007-03-11 19:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raj,
This is the most important decision of your life, this decision can make your life miserable or extremely happy.
1.When u go and see a gril for the first times never ever discuss the things like do you have any boy friend, this question will make you cheaper.
2. Talk to her very lightly as you will be talking to your friend whom you have met after a very long time.
3. Ask the questions like interests in studies, cooking or which subjects you like and hate.
4. And don't go on asking and asking be calm for sometime and let her ask you some questions, give her the opportunity to speak.
5. Don't criticize or say negitive words like Sorry i don't like to eat this, accept what ever is served to you. Fell like being at home.
These are the tips for your first meeting.
2007-03-12 01:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by RUBY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about questions. Just be transperant. Tell about yourself, your likes, your dislikes, your life. With each point about yourself, ask her what does she thinks about the same. Talk more about your flaws. So that she can understand you well. They shouldn't be a surprise package for her after marraige. Ask her about her positives and negatives. Be comfortable. it's just like meeting a new friend.
I started off by playing a game. I said a word and she was supposed to tell the first thing that comes into her mind. Then she said a word and I was supposed to tell the first thing that came into my mind. Although it could help us understand each other much, but we definitely got into comfortable chat later.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-12 15:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Raj
The judgement on the basis of question answer will not work after some time of marriage. Be cool and if you can feel the direction of waves of the air that will decide your destiny
2007-03-12 09:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by sona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. anyways ask her likings and dislikings, her expectations from a man as her hubby and also say about urslf honestly and ur expectations . With, the way she answers and the things she gives importance ,u can come up to a certain point of conclusion about her character. Finally dont forget to ask whether she likes u or not.
2007-03-12 01:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is like meeting a new friend. Just ask her about her family background, her friends and lastly, herself. She must be comfortable to answer your questions honestly and remember she is also nervous about it too. So maybe you tell her about yourself, your family and the kind of friends you have, what you like and don't like. It will make it easier this may. So happy talking.
2007-03-12 01:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her
abt her education(college)
interests...
job
whether she wants to continue her job after marriage...
wat kind of life partner she wants....wat r her expectations....
just observe her tone of speaking and body language...
look in her eyes 70% of the time wen u r asking/talking to her...
2007-03-12 02:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by understanding_bf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her about her views on various things, ask her about her favourites like movie stars, songs, books, sports, ask what she does in her free time, some hobbies and so on. ask her about her life plans, ask her about her education and if she wants to study more, if she is working ask her about her job, if she likes it and how long would she continue, ask her about her view on life generally, ask about her expectations from her prospective life partner!
expect similar questions from her and also be honest and answer these, see if you can strike a conversation like you met before! then you will know this is the one! do invite me for your wedding!
2007-03-12 01:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Infopath Manager! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you born a woman? What kind of medicaton do you take? How do you feel about us bringing other women home from the bars?
2007-03-12 01:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you ready for a time of your life and have any regrets for from your past,have you ever loved another man before.
2007-03-15 15:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by bxriffraff4731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋