My husband and I generally get along but we just got into this fight and I really wonder how I ended up with this person. We don't fight that often but when we do I feel like I hate him and don't care about him at all.
2007-03-11 18:26:26 · 13 answers · asked by THATgirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you said two critical things. One...you don't fight that often and two...you generally get along. If you were constantly fighting and not able to be on the same page I would agree with you, and question why you made this choice of a husband. Since what you are describing is something you wonder about during the heat of the moment, Then I would venture to say that most spouses think that during or right after a fight. And its natural...your hurt and therefore, you are going to try and put up a defense mechanism to some degree that will take the edge off the pain. So what easier way to do that but to question, at least for a while, why you are with this person. Fighting isn't really an issue in relationships, its how you fight...do you fight with respect or does the emotions take over all the time. You will get more out of your fights believe it of not if you both learn how to fight.... and hows this...it will actually enhance the depth of your love for each other when you the two of you learn to fight the correct way.....Good Luck!
2007-03-11 18:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm taking a wild guess here that your fight was about something regular...and by that I mean you usually will argue about something like this....
You took vows through thick and thin, it sucks, but you should have done your homework better if you expected blissful outcomes...marriage is work, Hard Work...and I've been there...it's a tough one to answer, you either stay with him or you don't....if it's about the same things then get some counselling or agree to disagree, everyone will eventually butt heads on some topic...if he's just being a lazy do nothing pig then you'd better wisen up and show him who's boss
2007-03-11 18:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling and it sucks. I feel like a fool and a jerk, and wonder how am I going to get out of this mess and how did I get here in the first place.
Then some time goes by and I try to focus on his good points, all that he has and does for our family and things calm down and a real discussion takes place and we figure things out.
These fights are scary and horrid, but don't beat yourself up over it.
Focus on why you love and chose this man to be your husband.
I guarantee you will feel better.
2007-03-11 18:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by smp1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just going for a walk or to the Mall on shopping spree,
anything is better than fighting and Hate.If you don't stop it you will simply leave one day and that's that.So, try to be the strong one and do not fight.You can agree to disagree, but loud arguing, and fussing ,and fighting can destroy you.
Maybe,you two are too much alike or too much togetherness, get a hobby,or join a Gym.Good luck,I know how you feel.
2007-03-11 18:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i looked at ur myspace and you guys seem to have a fun and happy life, i feel the same with my husband at times. we're like u, I'm a stay at home mom and he's in the army. when i feel like you do, i just think back to my last loser boyfriends, i think how worse it could be, he could beat me or be addicted to drugs or some ****. i realize im lucky to have a good man who wants to support our family and let me stay at home. but yeah i still get so mad and hate him at the moment. the best thing to do is take yourself out of the situation, go get ur nails done, go drive around and then come back home. that helps me and my man like 90% of the time.
2007-03-11 18:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way some times when we get in to a heated argument. But we don't fight for long. We make up pretty quickly.
2007-03-11 18:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...I'm going through the same thing right now and i understand the whole hating him at that moment....I swear on a stack of them, i would never, ever get married again if this marriage goes south....
2007-03-11 18:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it's NOT just us?!!
My wife is insane. When she's on the rag, it's twenty times worse. Sorry to be callous, but it's true!!
So there is usually up to ten days a month that we will just ignore eachother because of some stupid argument!
2007-03-12 01:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by a kinder, gentler me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you are mad don't yell at him just go cool down some where and go back about an hour later and talk and don't talk about anything that will make you guys argue. I would just sit down talk it out then maybe see if he wants to watch tv or hang out somewhere
2007-03-11 18:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see my dear...when you live together all the time with someone...that is going to happen...but its not the end of the world...
i've gone through that feeling many times...but life is like a flowing river..things change....times change...some moments are bad..some are great...dont expect the best all the time....
just keep your calm in these testing times....keep your patience....when the time is right....talk to him...tell him how you feel..
also you take care of your own happiness...dotn depend on him for it....divert your mind....give him some space,,,,he'll really appreciate you for your maturity....
All the best :)
2007-03-11 19:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jennie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋