If I had a daughter, how would I raise her to be right and proper?

Question

In other words, not like you women that give it up to anybody that you run in to.

How can I teach her to have respect for herself so she doesn't end up like you women? Bitter, vindictive, selfish. Purely rotten.

Answer 1

Choose her mother wisely. Find a woman whose example you would want your daughters to follow.

Going to church as a family is good, it shows that you believe in something (as long as you actually do, of course)

Be a good example and have a good, stable, and loving relationship with her mother. Show her how a good man treats and respects all women, not just their wife, but also make sure she sees that you care for her mother more than anyone else in the world.

Don't judge others, as you did when writing this post.

Tell her that's she's beautiful from the time that's she's a little girl (and don't stop when she gets older) and strive to have a very close relationship with her. Listen (or at lkeast look up the lyrics) to the songs Butterfly Kisses and I Loved Her First to get an idea of what I'm talking about.

Respect her and hold her to the highest standards, not in a controlling way, but in one that says you believe in her and want only the best things in her life.

Don't let her date until she's at least fifteen. This isn't to be evil, it's because growing up is hard enough to do alone and it gets even harder when you try to do it with someone else.

Long befre she starts dating, talk to her about what you hope for her in her relationships with guys.

No clothes you wouldn't want a boy her age to see her in. Again, don't go crazy with this, but you're a guy so you know how they think even better than I do. Also, remember that clothese are a habit and you can't suddenly want her to stop wearing revealing things once she hits puberty. So basically, skimpy swimsuits when she's five years old set an awful precident.

Same thing with makeup, I would say that she really doesn't need to play with it at all till she's twelve or thirteen and that's on the young side.

Be protective. Over-controlling is bad, but caring about her enough to actively look out for her best interests is amazing and sadly a lot of dads don't.

Strive to be the kind of man you would want her to marry someday. This may be a hard one, but it's actually psychologically proven that girls tend to be attracted to men similar to their fathers. If you live in the best way that you can, her standards will be very high.

Trust her, it makes her feel special and gives her something to live up too.

Most of all, you need to love her, respect her, and tell her from a very early age about all of the amazing things you want for her life. You have to remember that you can't live it for her, and that she's going to surprise you many many times, but you can definitely help her along the way.

Answer 2

The Kids look at the parents and people around and learns a lot of things.. Immaterial of whether your baby is girl or boy...... Yesterday i just had to change the TV channel and i came across a program which was saying about the how the babies can be brought up in much disciplined way etc....
The doctor who hosted the program said the baby learns a lot when he/she is in the mothers womb..... when the mother is very disciplined the baby learns it from her and the baby's mind and body will also get used to that.... so if the mother misses some of her daily activity then the baby in the womb kicks or do something else to make the mother understand that she has missed out her action on that particular time.... It was really amazing to know such things..... and a mother of two year old child was also interviewed... the mother said she started with the infant education when the baby was 10 months old...... and by the time when the baby was one and half years she was able to recognize the flags of different nation when the names of those countries were call out.......
I think these infos would help you in one or the other way...
Good Luck:)

Answer 3

Religion works to control behavior, but it also sets up a way of thinking that can make her "Bitter, vindictive, selfish. Purely rotten.", so it could go either way.

A more effective way may be to raise her to question what she's told, think rationally, and to take responsibility for her own actions. If she can think critically like this and behave responsibly, then she has a good chance of turning out well.

Answer 4

Be a good example, thats how children learn. Growing up I watched how my parents treated others and how they were treated in return, they were great examples, giving to others, treating others with respect and love. And they made sure we did the same whether it was holding doors for people carrying stuff or politely addressing a problem instead of yelling, and keeping us unspoiled, making sure at 16 we went out and found jobs so that we understood responsibility and how to manage our finances.

As a third child I was raised with quite a bit of freedom, but having siblings and playing on teams made me understand putting others first.

In the end it's all about example and being there for your kids and making sure they understand that everything is give and take, and that they are not entitled to anything, they have to earn it.

Answer 5

Teach her bibically the way my mother taught me. Teach her that is very important for her to save herself for her mate and that Jeus loves and cares what she does or alows someone else to do to her body. She is never too young. If your daughter has started school or pre-school you should teach her if someone touches her then she should tell you. RESPECT yourself in front of her and don't have men around her (if your not married) and teac her as an example. Hope that helps.
I'm a 19 yr. old female, still a virgin, saved, in college, in the church, a great leader and example to younger children, and God has blessed me with a great guy that I know he designed especially for me... we are even planning on marriage after college. God is still working miracles despite or world today. Just pray for your child, teach her the vaules of herself and life.... and watch God move!!!

Answer 6

Set a good example for being honest and kind. Treat her like a little lady, with all of the proper please and thank you's. Praise the nice women you know, don't bad mouth the others, but tell your daughter that "we don't admire women who behave like that." When she does good things, tell her how proud you are of her, and when she slips up, tell her that she will do better next time. Always love her and encourage her. It is difficult, been there tried to do that. Best wishes

Answer 7

Wait a minute, not all women are like that. First of all she needs a good role model. You sound like you dont respect women, so how is she going to learn to respect herself?

Answer 8

Why do you have such bad opinions of women, did you just get kicked to the kerb?
You have obviously got emotional problems.
It probably best if you didn't breed at all.
GET STERILISED.

Answer 9

My suggestion would be to teach her in the ways of God, teaching her out of the Bible. But it's her choice if she wants to accept it or not. Because we are all born with free will.

Answer 10

Thanks for judging me. Raise her to be the opposite of you. A loving proper woman who is respected because she treats others with respect.