ok so my best friend just broke up with her boyfriend ( well he broke up with her) and he told me that the only reason that they were together was becasue his friend dared him to go out with her and he is now telling me that I cant tell my friend about it cuz his religion tells him that he needs to be in peace with every one and if i tell her about the dare she will hate him. i need to tell my friend but he is just telling me that i dont understand and he is like " how can u care more aobut ur friend than about a religion" help please i have tried to convince him to tell me but what else should i say to convince him???
2007-03-11 17:46:25 · 7 answers · asked by jessicaaaa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the thing is he wont let me tell her but i need to
2007-03-11 18:07:01 · update #1
I'm real sorry that he put you in that type of position. What he is saying is "How can you care more about YOUR friend then HIS religion", And I don't mean to sound rude or anything, But is a bit selfish on his part. If he wanted to "Stay at peace with everyone" Then he wouldn't have taken the stupid bet in the first place. Good luck o.O
2007-03-11 17:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's something that you feel your friend should know, then tell her. Friends come before ex-boyfriends.
If his religion says that he needs to be at peace with everyone, then he shouldn't have gone out with this girl on a dare in the first place. Things like that only cause problems.
He needs to deal with what he did. Don't cover for him.
2007-03-12 01:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by All I can be is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships present challenges that are sometimes confusing. If you try to honor one person frequently you feel you are stepping on another's toes. The best approach is to simply honor yourself. When a friend asks you to become involved with their relationship, ask yourself how you can do so and still honor yourself. The answer is probably that you will never become involved in another's problems. This is a lot more comfortable than where you are right now. If you honor yourself, are true to yourself, then you will tell your friends that you refuse to become involved in their issues with others. You may listen, you may empathize but they are the ones who have to make the ultimate decision about how they are going to react. Just as you have to make your own decisions as to how you are going to react to others. So let others have their issues, and you be true to yourself.
2007-03-12 00:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cared at all about his religion, he would be responsible enough to know you should tell your friend the truth.
2007-03-12 00:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if his religion meant so much he would not be betting I'm sure its against his religion
are you at piece with him or are you mad about what he did to your friend ?
personally i would not tell her why hurt her feelings like that ? it is not something she needs to know
I am not a religious person so my friends come first
2007-03-12 01:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is his religion your religion too? he definitely is not in peace with everyone because he was not honest to his ex-gf who happens to be your bestfriend. your loyalty is not with him but with your bestfriend. no need to convince him...let him be a man.
2007-03-12 00:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Fay_f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,, its ok tell ur friend that it was just a dare think about ur friend ok
2007-03-12 00:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by secret admire_4u:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋