in my younger days I was a bit crazy and I hurt alot of friends that were close to me. I've recently reflected on my life and I went back and said my Sorrys to the many of them. Telling them that I'm not trying to make excuses for myself and i'm not trying to rehash the past but i realize now that i disappointed them. Only one person didn't laugh in my face. Did i do the wrong thing? Should I have just left it alone? Because I didn't realize how much I was hated by so many people. :(
2007-03-11 17:43:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When you plant a seed - it takes time to grow.
You have grown and have sought forgiveness. Now you need to leave that seed of forgiveness to grow in them.
When we are hurt - it is fantastically difficult to overcome the pain - but when the wrong doer seeks to make amends, it becomes easier.
I am struggling with forgiving someone myself. His wrong doing landed him in prison... but to heal, I have to forgive him. He has asked for forgiveness form others... so I know his spirit is being worked on. It is still hard.
You planted the seed.
You have learned from your mistakes.
Walk forward, now - and be at peace with all the new folks you meet. Seek to do right. Make your life a testimony to your change of heart. If those from your past see the change - they may then believe.
Be at peace, hon. --De
2007-03-11 17:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a good thing to apologise as long as it was heartfelt. Perhaps people might doubt how real your apology is if as you have said you hurt a lot of people. Don't feel bad about it, you did your part. If the hurt was deep it may take time to heal. You gotta understand that. And some may never forgive. So again, you apologized and let it at that, don't worry about those who could not accept it, you know what you did was the right thing to do!
2007-03-12 00:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by J. A. M. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by making amends and I think that you should be applauded for your bravery. No, I don't think you should have left it alone because things could have gotten further out of hand if you would have left them the way they were. Don't focus on what hatred these people have towards you because you will be forgiven by God for apologizing and doing the right thing by yourself and by these people. Lift your head up, hold it high, and walk tall!
~ Never allow someone to make you feel inferior without your consent.
Good Luck!
2007-03-12 01:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through the same kind of thing, actually. And when many of them didn't accept my apology i thought i had done the wrong thing when in reality... We both did the right thing. :] I started appoligizing to make THEM feel better...but really i should have done it to make ME feel better. And, after a while, it DID make me feel better. Who cares if they are too thick skinned and stubborn to accept a simple appology for some past mistakes...you TRIED right? I hope it eased your concious a little bit, Don't worry if they laughed in your face...in a week they'll be kicking themselves in the *** for not having the capability to forgive. :]
2007-03-12 01:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Seduce A Stranger :] 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a lot of credit for attempting to make amends for your past inappropriate behaviour.
You did not do the wrong thing. Obviously those people are still hurt. In time they may be able to forgive. The attempt is what matters. Acceptance is out of our hands
2007-03-12 03:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did right by apologizing.
I think that anyone that laughs at someone for a sincere apology is cruel and has no empathy for others.
Perhaps these weren't great friends from the beginning and you should leave them in the past and meet some better friends now.
2007-03-12 00:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't feel guilty about apologizing to them..... you did the right thing! The people that laughed in your face are the ones that are going to get bad karma. But you shouldn't worry I would have done the same thing
2007-03-12 00:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ask :-) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have, you might not. It doesnt matter now.. Just move on. And I think hate is probably a strong word. Unless they flat out say they hated you.. I doubt they actually do... Learn to be hard on yourself when you're supposed to be hard on yourself. ( ie: Learn from your past, and dont do it again.. then you wont have to go back an apologize )
2007-03-12 00:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋