Me and my man have lived together for about 4 years. I love him very much but he never tells me that he loves me. He feels that the money he gives me and living with me should show me that he loves me. We have talked about it many times and I explained how it felt to me for him to never express his love to me,his excuse is that his mama told him that he is never to tell a woman that he loves her except for her. He kisses me good-bye only if no one is around to see him. Of course we do the normal sexual stuff. He doesn't spend anytime with me doing anything unless it is what he wants to do or if I fuss and complain until he will do something that I enjoy doing. He makes all his plans and clues me in on them later when he gets the time. I want to tell him to leave but I feel guilty for it because he quit drinking to be with me and moved from his family's home which he cheerishes like it is a throme and trust me it aint. How to I get out of this situation or is it a normal man thing?
2007-03-11 17:40:57 · 8 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell him to leave if its your place .give him a push tell him to run not walk sounds like a jerk ,do you really want to be unhappy all your life ,kick him to the curb
2007-03-11 17:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by outlawlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you have expressed your feelings to him on this matter and things havent changed for the better, I'd suggest that you have a conversation on your relationship with him again, but only this time by ending it. Be honest with him. Tell him you care about him but you just need more than what he is willing to give you. This is not a typical males behavior in a relationship. You've had a relationship with this man for quite some time, and I understand all of the emotion you have tied up into it but you need to think of your own well-being first. You deserve someone who doesnt have a problem telling you how much he loves you, someone who is going to show you all of the love and affection you need and more, someone who is going to do the things that come natural to him and not just hold his mothers hand all of the time and await her approval. You deserve someone who is going to make you completely happy. Maybe if you end things with him and he sees what he is losing he will change his ways for the better. If he doesnt, than it is *his* loss. In any instance, I wish you luck and hope you find your perfect guy.
2007-03-12 01:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by phirephaerie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him that you think the two of you need some time apart. Tell him to move back in with his family for now... if he loves living there so much, then it shouldn't be too hard to convince him. After a month or so, cut him lose, and try to find a more sensitive guy who treats you with respect. Good luck, hon!
2007-03-12 00:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it not normal at all . you need to find someone that will give
you the emotional attention that you need. he has some
issues that he need to deal with, but you should not have
to deal with this not after 4 years. he sound like he does
not care about your feeling and that not good. time to
move on. he taken up to much of your time.
2007-03-12 00:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really normal "male" thing when that male doesn't value you.
He has repeatedly shown you what importance you have in his life....NONE!
Tell him to leave. Trust me, he won't be alone, he'll go right back to his momma's lovin' arms.
You Can Do Better!
2007-03-12 00:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put up with that. Tell him to go back to his momma. From a guys point of view he's a scumbag.
2007-03-12 00:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No that is Just Freaking Weird.Move him out
2007-03-12 00:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Gizoku 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he never says he loves you.
2007-03-12 00:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by 4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋