question for women who married as virgins regarding first phase of marriage?

Question

OK, I have a question for the ladies who had enough self respect to hold their virginity for their husbands:

Describe the first phase of your marriage, and how long did it last?

like, im sure the first couple of times it was awkward, but after how many times did you feel comforable with your husband in bed?

After how many times did you start enjoying sex,

and, finally how was life outside of the bedroom? like "can't take your hands of each other"? or different?

please describe. soon to marry virgin girl and would like to know what to expect

thanks

lisas just mad she cant turn back the clock and undo her mistake. its ok lisa

yes, im a virgin

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but self-respecting virgins would not reply in this forum...please stop embarrassing yourself, and don't give a naive girl an opportunity to do the same. How about you marry a girl because you love her, embrace the adventure, and take one day at a time??

Answer 2

what you can expect depends on what you can give her. You give her force it will turn out bad; You give her appreciation, understanding. relaxation it will turn out good. Do you see where I am coming from? It all depends upon how you handle the situation.
Chances are you being the male (natural leader) she will be looking to you as how to react. Remember every action gets a reaction; no matter how subtle.
To perfectly honest with you I was not a virgin when I married; my husband was. Still had any man acted roughly with me it would have surely blown the whole thing apart, caused me to think badly about marriage and sex and all of that. That is why I said all that I said.
In conclusion be kind be genttle and you will surely reap the rewards.

Answer 3

My situation was awkward because I was a virgin, but I wasn't, i was sexually abused as a child (2-4 age, he did everything like oral sex, but no penatration, so he left me a virgin) but he left me a virgin, so I was already educated. It was easy in my dating phase to never allow a guy to touch me. I did not want to be touched. The marriage did not last long, because I was running away from my abuser. Because of the sexual abuse, it took some time to get the big "O" because of the abuse. After my husband abandoned me, I did become a freak, as most sexually abused women do and had the big "O" with another man. I started interpreting sex as love and wouldn't allow myself to fall in love with a guy until my third marriage. So I cannot help you too much, I was a virgin/victim of sexual abuse. As a victim, you either hate the act or you love the act too much.

Answer 4

Funny thing...

Virginity + Proprietary Monogamy = Meaningless Woman's choice + Male control.

Add that to an inability for a woman to survive without a man and you have a recipe for females being marginalized.

The most ironic part of all is the way that women think they want that FOR THEMSELVES!

So, any self respecting woman wouldn't hold herself for the whim of a husband and instead make her sexual decisions on her own for her own reasons and outside of male control, unless that's what they get off on.

Just my thoughts anyway.

BTW, asking what age they are might also be of use, say correlating this information based on years past puberty or onset of menarche.

Answer 5

A Lady never kisses and tell (well any lady wouldn't indulged this kind of topic to Yahoo Q&A's)
But maybe this will help you out a little. It could also be the same for those whom have just given child birth, and to scared to have intercourse again or atlest for a while. Or even after having women surgery.
After they first try it will be slow until they are comfortable, relaxed.
But just fall right into place and very much liking it, in no time.
If it was ok for them to begin with. Slow and ease and lots of love.

I hope I was of help and this is from the bottom of my heart I tell you this as I was once one of them ladies too.

Answer 6

It obvious and strange how some folks view virgins in this day and time. It's almost un-normal or un-natural for 2 to remain virgins till after marriage.

It's like it is a rare breed, and almost extinct.

If this guy is for real he's pretty naive. But at the same time we need to, cut them some slack, give him and his bride a thumbs up, and wish them well.

Some of you sarcastic bastards need to wash your mouth out and get you a new life.

Answer 7

My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night. I was 20, he was 26.

I don't want to go into any great detail...it wasn't bad...just relax and take your time. I had a cousin who tried to freak me out and say it would really hurt--I was able to tell her she was wrong!

And once you're married, you guys won't be able to keep your hands off each other for a while! I've been married 13 1/2 years and it's still true with us to an extent.

Answer 8

Is anybody actually going to answer this question or are you all just going to badger him for asking an honest question that he's not to proud to ask?
(Except Alexandra. Thank you Alexandra for your answer.)

Every one of you have had weird/uncomfortable questions before. Did you just ignore the urge to find out the answer because you were too afraid of people like yourself ridiculing you? Get a backbone people and search for conflict about YOUR insecurities rather than the insecurities of other people.

He's concerned with his wife to be. What's wrong with that? I applaud questioneer for asking this question.

Answer 9

You messed up right off the bat with the "self-respect" comment. I hope you understand that humans were having sex at very young ages LONG before there was marriage.

It's a biological urge, it's not "wrong" to have sex. It can be dangerous, but so can climbing a tree. Both can kill you, one a lot faster than the other. Neither is "wrong".

Answer 10

Actually the question is "how virgin are the virgins"! Is virginity just vaginal? What about hand, oral, and anal virginity? How can you be sure she is a complete virgin? And what if a "virgin" decides to try other men after marriage just to see the difference!
I would rather ask if the woman ever forgets her first man and is true to the husband.