All my life I have been a Daddy's girl. I have been blessed to have my Mother and Father all of my life. My Daddy has always offered me everything that I deserve in life. Now I feel like it's my husbands time to do it. Is it wrong to expect that he should. I was always told that you marry what you see, they have like charictoristics but he doesn't dote on me. I don't expect that but I do feel like ultimately his job is to make me know that I'm loved.
2007-03-11 17:32:30 · 15 answers · asked by liberty girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know I was always told that you end up marrying a man that is just like your father. Well, mine is definitely nothing like my daddy. (I am also a big daddy's girl.) My husband romanced me in the beginning...he treated me like a princess. He was my knight in shining armor. Well, we have been married now for 6 years (this friday actually)! We have had our moments...and in all honesty telling him what you really need from him (ie to feel loved, told how beautiful you are, how much he loves you) is the only way to get it regularly. I think one of the mistakes we women make is expecting our husbands to know what we need or want without telling them. We expect them to know that we could really use their help cleaning up dinner dishes, or helping get kids to bed, or whatever it may be...rather than them watching tv while we do it all. They figure if we don't ask, we don't want or need their help. And we think they should just want to help without being asked because they love us. I hope this is all making sense.
Anyway, I think my main point to all of this is that if something is lacking in your marriage, have an honest talk with him about it. The only way he will know is if you tell him. I think a big part of the romancing, and treating us like queens ends once we get married, because they know they don't have to win us over anymore. Hope everything works out great for you, and I hope my rambeling has helped some.
2007-03-11 18:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Angels 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow the woman doesn't have to work or clean the house. But the thing is she signed up for this when you told her all of this. So why NOW is she complaining about it. Well the thing is for me this wouldn't work so I know me, but she married you so she shouldn't expect you to change, but you have to look at it like this. When you were telling her this she was probably thinking that you were being funny and not serious or eventually grow out of it and start being someone else. Hey it happens in a relationship from time to time and from couple to couple. The thing is I understand that you are who you are and won't change that, but compromising won't hurt either. I'mn ot saying change anything because I wouldn't you are who you are and she knew that coming in, but just compromise doing something with her after 9pm one day or something. That's all I'm saying. But nope when you marry or even date someone seriously you are saying that you are accepting this person for who and what they are. No matter what you do, say, or live. But she should have weighed out all that you were saying and see if she really wanted this or not. Now she's wanting more and well you have laid it out on the line to her that this is who you are and take it or leave it. I hope that things can work out for you two and you both won't become the new divorced people the the millions already divorced now.
2016-03-29 00:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when does showing love equate to offering you everything you deserve in life? That is being high maintenance and a spoiled brat. Love is about feelings. It's about wanting to be with that other person as much as you can. About making your spouse feel loved. People give what they get. If you don't show him love, eventually he will realize you are only looking for a new daddy. Do you dote on him? Maybe that is why he doesn't dote on you. Did he before you were married? If not, why did you marry him? Marriage is give and take...but I don't mean him doing all the giving and you do all the taking. You each have to give. And you each get to take.
2007-03-11 21:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost every women that had a good relationship with their father, expects, or wants to find that same characteristics within their husbands.
U have a right for ur husband to make u feel loved BUT as long as u give room for his imperfections.
And the one mistake some daddy's girls always makes, is to constantly compare their husbands to their father-& im sure u mature enough to see the problem in this (",)
2007-03-11 17:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you deserve. A Father's love for his daughter is matchless. It is rare that a man is there to love a girl as much as her father does.
Yes he should let you know that you are loved above the rest. You should have a fair degree of flexibility about the expectations thing. No two people are same and here we are talking about a dad and a husband. Flexibility will protect you from the annoyance if your certain demand is not, as welcomed as it was by your dad.
I have a dad and sister, I have always been Number 2 for him because he loves his daughter more than anything and anybody in the world, so thats the perspective.
2007-03-11 17:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
“My Daddy has always offered me everything that I deserve in life. Now I feel like it's my husbands time to do it.”
And why did you DESERVE EVERYTHING? Merely because you existed?
Should a wife feel loved and appreciated by her husband? Of course. But it seems like you expect hubby to do nothing else but spend his entire life making you happy. How about you making him happy?
You sound immature, self-centered, and extremely high maintenance.
Good luck to hubby.
Grow up. Realize you’re not the center of the universe. Learn some independence. And stop depending on others to hand you everything.
2007-03-11 17:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
from one daddys girl to another,no one will EVER fill your dads shoes.my dad died almost 2 yrs ago and i was devastated and my husband tried so hard to be like him it almost ruined us.it is not his job to dote on you or spoil you like your daddy,that was HIS job.your husbands job is to love and honor and respect you as a HUSBAND not a daddy unitl you guys have kids and he can do the same for your daughter.love and cherise all the time and memories of your father,but now that your a wife you have to grow up and except that once you said i do and agreed to share your life with this man,that childish part is over(sucks doesnt it LOL)you and your hubby should love and spoil each other.its not all about you anymore.good luck
2007-03-11 17:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.dynomite 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You and your husband should love you equally, but your husband shouldn't have to treat you like you deserve everything. My daughter is a daddy's girl, but she don't get everything she feels she deserves. Because I tell my kids that if they want anything, they have to earn it. There are no handouts.
2007-03-11 17:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
what you recieved from your dad is what a father should be like... of course you want similar charecteristics like your dad... but your husband is he's own self.. you do derserve love but dont set your standards to high because being a daddys girl too... you never ever find someone the same like them.........
2007-03-11 17:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by just_jemma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definitely needs to show you that you are loved but in return yu need to do the same for him. Just remember Marriage is a give and give situation.... Don't expect him to be the giver all of the time. That won't work and your marriage will fail for sure....
2007-03-11 17:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋