why is american society view being introverted as a problem? Are other socities like this?

Question

It seems to me that in America being introverted is seen as something negaive which is ridiculous! What is so great about being friendly! Are other societies more adaptable to an introverted personality?

Answer 1

Society trusts those who are open with us - or at least, those who can fake it well enough. It's hard to trust someone who is not open and forthcoming - they seem to be keeping secrets, and secrets (whether in politics, business, or personal relations) can be harmful to those who aren't in the know.

All of this is not necessarily true, but unfortunately, that's human nature for you. Humans will often advance themselves as individuals, at the expense of others. As a result, we have developed a suspicious nature - no one is more suspicious of being used (for the betterment of someone else) than the person who would quickly do the same to others.

In days past, a successful person was more likely to be able to afford to get married and have healthy children. An unsuccessful person was often a lonely person - the lack of business success meant not having enough money to care properly for his spouse and offspring. People wouldn't support your business if they didn't trust that you would deliver as promised. Girl/boyfriends wouldn't believe you if they thought you had been unfaithful, no matter how much you denied it. Trust (deserved or not, as American presidents have shown for many years) is the lynchpin of society - even more so in primitive cultures, where survival can depend on trust.

PS: Being friendly is important in all cultures - it makes others feel they are on the same level as you. No one likes a snob that holds themselves aloof, even if it is deserved. This may not be your reason for being introverted, but many will see it this way.

Answer 2

All societies seem at introverts as a great deal, using fact an introvert is a risk to a society's continuation. A societal shape desires human beings to socialise with the intention to be maintained. If introverts outnumbered the social butterflies, then the society might smash down and get replaced via something that become very diverse from the present gadget. in case you have invested a good number of potential into the present gadget, you ought to marginalize every person this is a risk on your way of existence.

Answer 3

I've never thot that we view an introvert as a problem in and of itself. I consider myself to be one; I can go weeks at a time amusing myself & not leaving my home. But like anything else moderation is the key. After awhile, being alone can cause depression & withdrawal from society. We are social animals, after all, & human contact is necessary for our mental health.

I do think that most Americans are naturally friendly. It's just the way we are - very open & outgoing. Even I am when out in public. We are not normally a reserved people.

But be yourself. I don't know how old you are, but demands to be friendlier will lessen as time goes by. People learn to accept others as they are.
You are okay. Don't let this bother you. Be true to yourself.

Answer 4

in indonesia, yes, if you are introvert, parents will take over your live & mate you, and then your friend will, then your couple,,, and then your child, grandchildren......ect, basically, you are easy prey

you don't need to be friendly to be extrovert, some even anoying,

but hey, any thing that is too much is not good.