My wife & I are not wealthy people, so are looking for the least expensive route to go with.
2007-03-11 17:16:39 · 12 answers · asked by edward s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Not a good idea to have a family member do it as in the future it can an most often does create real problems. The bio mother feels like this is her child and you all don't. It doesn't start out this way but down the road it becomes this way, further more how was you going to do this, were you going to go to the Doctor and have him harvest eggs and semen and then implant them. If you ar going to go to this expense have them find a surrogate for you. You don't need the extra problems of a family member doing it.
2007-03-11 17:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by ffperki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can find a friend or family member to do it, you will save a lot of money. I was watching a show on TV and the surrogate's fee was $20,000. Of course, you will need to pay for medical care for the surrogate regardless of whether she is family or not.
Are you sure you need a surrogate and not just an egg donor? I know that may seem like a silly question, but what specifically is your fertility issue?
2007-03-13 20:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surrogacy can get pretty pricey!! Anywhere between $50,000 to $150,000. It all depends on if you use an agency (they do a lot of the work for you), what clinic/Dr you use, your own eggs and sperm or an egg donor, and if you use a family member as a surrogate or an surrogate from the surrogate world.
Check out these sites~
surromomsonline.com (an all around BIG site loaded with lots of info!!)
agency4solutions.com (an agency)
fertilethoughts.com (forum for surrogates and intended parents to be)
I know a lot of info if you have any more question please feel free to shoot me an email, I also know a less expensive agency if you need one!!
Good luck!!
I hope you have your little miracle in your arms very soon!!
2007-03-13 09:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Megz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are downfalls to both. Having someone in your family sounds great since they will be around alot and you can "monitor" the pregnancy, and you know more about them. However, it may cause problems after the baby is born. That family member will be around you and may feel like they have a say in what goes on parenting-wise since they carried/gave birth to the baby. Also, if you do pick a family member, do not pick a woman who already has a family of her own. She should not be confusing her own kids by carrying someone elses baby that she has to give back. Good luck, I hope it works out for you. In the right situation, surrogacy can be a big blessing!
2007-03-11 17:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear. It is ofcourse better to have a surrogate mother within ones own family, with certian restrictions. Relying on surrogate mothers who are not part of your family may some day later create a sense of belongingness in the mind of newly born and cause a displeasure.
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2007-03-11 17:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by sl k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to think about if you want it to be an "open" surrogasy" as in open like an open adoption. Do you plan on letting your child know who carried him or her to term? A surrogasy within your family can be cheaper if you find a family member who wants to help you, but there is always the possibility the bio mother or another family member would tell your child who carried him or her. I guess I don't know what kind of surrogasy you plan on. Using your wifes eggs or not. Anyway if you don't plan on sharing with him/ her who their bio mom is, if your not using your wifes eggs. I would consider the possibility of the child finding out.
2007-03-11 17:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Tawnya♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thought would be within. That way you know more about the surrogate AND she can still be a part of the child's life without making it awkward for you and your family.
2007-03-11 17:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how comfortable you are with the person, and if you think that person will bring it up later when your child is older and you are all having a family get together. but its up to you if you want your child to know that detail
2007-03-11 17:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be nice to find someone in your family to do this. it would be better knowing where your child came from than not knowing the person. and family probably wouldn't charge you if you could find someone that is good hearted and willing to help out.
good luck, and i wish you guys the best.
2007-03-11 17:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go with someone outside the family if it were me.
http://www.surrogacy.com
2007-03-11 22:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋