I'm married w-2 kids. I want more in life. I want to go out and see the world. My husband does NOT. Do I stay with him to keep my family and relatives happy? or do I move out to explore the world, without my kids and husband?
2007-03-11 17:11:07 · 12 answers · asked by aquababes04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 28. I had an arranged marriage at the age of 19. I haven't seen or done anything. I've met someone else who wants the same things as I. He's perfect in everyway.
2007-03-11 17:22:24 · update #1
Being without my kids is a vision that depresses me. I can't imagine that, in fact that wouldn't be life at all. You just think the grass is greener. Probably have always been that way. You keep chasing the rainbow. Sooner or later you will find out that pot of gold isn't really there.
2007-03-11 17:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a family...You can choose to be happy. Your kids will only live with you for a short period of time and then you will have YEARS to explore the world...for now you need to explore the world through your children's eyes! And you can still do exciting things...even if your husband doesn't want to. But, if you find things you both enjoy and can do together you can be a great example for your children. Children feel safe and secure in a two parent home...and you CAN be happy if you want to. You are responsible for molding their minds. Do you want them to grow up and throw their responsibilities out the window so they can "feel" happy. Happiness is not a destination. You have to choose to be happy every day no matter what life throws at you.
2007-03-11 18:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by otowndmbfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your kids that isn't fair they will grow up to HATE you and by the time you realize what you did was wrong they won't want to hear your "sorries" or "I know I made mistakes but..." I feel bad about the way your husband acts maybe you should try talking to him more about how you feel. However, I'm not trying to say don't see the world or travel, but if you do go with friends and take yor kids sometimes leave your husband at home. I know it sounds harsh but if he wants to just sit around, let him do just that. Also, I hope you have a job and you save money so that if the day comes where you decide to leave him, you can do just that without feeling you have to stay with him for financial support. With all of that said, just please do not leave your kids behind.
2007-03-11 17:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 kids...those are the most important people you should worrry about keeping happy.
Then, you should take care of yourself. You don't have to leave your husband to see the world. Tell your husband you need to get out more. Arrange with your husband, a sitter or your family to take care of the kids and take a holiday from being you. I wouldn't leave my husband just to find myself another man. They are all the same. You don't need that. Just have enough faith in yourself to go out and have some fun when you need to and come home happier.
2007-03-11 17:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 23:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life at best is a balancing act and a tricky one at that. my suggestion is in the form of a compromise where you gain everything and lose nothing. I would suggest that you work it out with your husband to where you can take mini trips and explore the world as you wish. you might also try taking classes on the subjects you enjoy and experience the world in that way. you don't have to give up anything to have what you want you just have to balance it with the things you already have.. best of luck and i hope this helps.
2007-03-11 17:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by simplyme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself about life. I believe the answer is finding a healthy balance of both. You need to know when to sacrifice your wants/needs but also know when to put your foot down and stand up for yourself. In your case, you have kids which have to come first. They depend on you and running out on them is not an option. Perhaps your husband is content with the life you have made together and just simply feels no need to see whats out there. Just because you have kids means you're not tied down for good. Travel with them and see the world together or if that's not possible perhaps you might have to wait till they are grown and you have more time for yourself. You can always continue to educate yourself and that might help you fulfill this emptiness you feel. You could also change things up in your daily routine to get you out of pattern of boring days/nights. Take dance classes, piano lessons, learn a new lanuage. There are hundreds of ways to get more in life without running out on your family. If all this doesn't help and you still feel a void you might want to look more closely at your relationship with your husband. What's going on there? Do you need professinal help with that? I believe with all my heart your should live life to the fullest and there are always ways to make this possible. Good luck!
2007-03-11 17:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you go see the world you have two children to take care of, who will take care of them while you go chase your dreams.You sound very confused those kids did not ask to be here you and your husband brought them into this world.
So,they are your and husband's responsibility.You will need to see the world after they are grown, unless you have a Nanny,
and you can get a traveling job.Think it all out very carefully.
2007-03-11 17:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you explore the world while maintaining your family. having a family is not about you only. there are the 2 kids to think about. tell your husband what you want. assure him you are still there even if you pursue your own interests. if he really loves you, he'll understand. you see, how can you make your family happy if you yourself is miserable? be happy so that you can make other people happy.
2007-03-11 17:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if your any nice kind of mother you will never leave your kids for your own dreams to make them feel un wanted and abandoned who's happiness is more important yours or your children and if you don't love your husband divorce him but get custody do not leave your kids behind how would you felt if your mom had done you that way growing up
2007-03-15 14:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋