Does this sound suspicious, my mom met a guy over the net?

Question

and they are in love and etc. he lives in Cali and my mom in Tx, he has promised her so many things, but often says one thing then another. He recently asked my mom to buy him a car if she really loves him to buy a car for him, she told him she has no credit, but he percisted. Then at the end when my mom was irritated, he finally said he was just kidding. I think he was just testing her, just in case she did say yes or no, he had an excuse. They already met, they are both married, but my mom is separated, he claims he is moving out of his wife's apartment. I told my mom not to let her guard down, but she is apparently in love. She will not buy the car, but is there anything i can do to see how true this man is? he is like 53 and my mom 52. Another thing, since they met on the net, he was planning a trip to mexico, my mom has family there and he got to stay there for free, free ride, free food, free everything, because my mom told her family to give him a place to stay.

Answer 1

Hello my name is Joan,
first of all your Mom is a grown woman..... There are allot of pros & cons to meeting someone over the net..... Are you still living with your Mom? Let me tell you , there are more bad than good that comes out of the net. Now If your a grown woman yourself there is a back ground check you can pay for over the net. First go and ask the seach engine , and go with one that is a member of the BBB which is the BETTER BUSINESS BUERUA......Most of all pray for guideness, and let your Mom know how concerned you are !!!
Good luck and May God Bless you and your Mom
Joan

Answer 2

Please reinforce to your mom to NOT let her guard down with this guy. I don't think he will divorce his wife for your mom. Any guy who INSISTS that a woman he met on the net BUY him a car? Sorry, but that guy needs to get real! And soon! I watch Judge Judy, and People's Court, and I hear so much of this guy, I gave him money for a car, and he said he'd pay me back, and he hasn't, and the guy has his turn and says how it was a gift from her, he owes her no money. No written contract/agreement, etc. for her side to show she was telling the truth. Etc. These guys that do that kind of thing are nothing but losers. He is a big time loser. As a gal, from what I have heard and seen on those court tv shows, believe, me, your mom is 100% better off without this guy. He is "sweet talking", and "mooching" off of her. Her family in Mexico? He owes them money for all they did for him, a place to stay, food, etc. I honestly don't know if you can do anything more to show her what kind of guy he really is, unless you were to hire a detective, a private investigator to check this guy out, and have the evidence needed to show to her. I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 3

Oh, brother, this guy is taking your mom for a ride. The very fact that he would ask for a car is a huge warning signal. She is old enough to know better. Check and see if he has a criminal record. The authorities in CA can help you. He is taking total advantage of your mother. What has he done for her?

Answer 4

Id say she better be carefull check his crimminal records, if you can cause last thing you need is a funneral on your hands. Tell your mom how much you love her and that she needs to check out this guys past before she leaps in to deep. Good Luck! If your mom does not check out his past maybe you could do some background checking. Once again good luck cause love can be blind.

Answer 5

I'm married and my husband wouldn't ask me to buy him a car. Sounds like your mom is lonely. I think there was a Dr. Phil episode about this. Go to the website and check out previous episodes and show your mom. She's being dumb.

Answer 6

Who's the mom here?
it sounds like mom did a terrific job with you ,you sound very mature ,give your mom some credit .
she's a grown woman ,and it sounds from the car situation ,she's using her head also ,not just her heart .
keep a eye on thing's ,but stay hidden also .
don't make it so obvious ,that she will have to choose between you to .
love her always .
good luck .

Answer 7

The guy doesn't seemed to be all that great to me. To me he sounds like a free loader, but unfortunately there is nothing you can do. Your mother is obviously a grown woman and hopefully in time will see that this guy is a loser. If not then it is her decision to make whether she continues to see this guy or not.

Answer 8

* I am sorry you have to be so concerned for your mother, but God bless you for being so loving.

I feel for your mother... and I understand the desire to be with someone, but it isn't healthy to be with someone who takes and doesn't give.

You are right in you assumption to question his sincerity !!! Mom may not listen to you, but don't give up trying. Try not to be emotional, but try and appeal to her sensibility. I hope the family speaks up as well. Children and family may not always like the new person in their parents life, but they need to make sure they are not jumping to any wrong conclusions. But to calmly and carefully try to get their opinion heard.

By your description I would say he is taking advantage of her. She may need you more than ever if this goes down badly, don't give up on her. I hope the best for you and your mother.

Answer 9

He sounds like a guy that just wants a free ride. He sounds immature, like he can't take care of himself, or get himself the things he needs.

But love is blind, I guess.

Answer 10

I suggest you get a friend to contact him on line and make a move on him to see if he goes for it.