I hate the spirit of arguing. I just hate arguing, I would always try to avoid it but then it comes to me. I always get a permanent negative image of the person that I argued with. The worst thing is arguing with my mom, because she is the beauty of life and when she gets mad at me she screams really loud then I start getting angry until I can't take it anymore and I scream back. Also arguing becomes easier with that person after the first argument . Does anyone know any effective methods of preventing arguments or healing argumentative situations after they have happened? Great Day/night!!!
2007-03-11 17:07:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Give yourself permission to argue and be your own advocate. No one really likes confrontation, but it is necessary for you to have boundaries people respect. When I have an argument I think of it as a storm and when it is resolved the sun comes out! When you do not give your bad energy to the storm you are not fighting fair and it will take much more time for the sun to truly shine because you will have clouds following you and not releasing troubles that need to be resolved. It is a process that is healthy!
2007-03-11 18:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by angelicsanto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you keep the distinction between principle and character clearly in your mind. That is to say remember that just because someone disagrees with you about a principle (say vanilla is better than chocolate) does not make them a bad person. With regard to you mother she probably isn't screaming at you because she feels that strongly about the actual topic of the argument but rather she reacts emotionally to the fact that you disagree with her at all. The best thing there is to simply not argue with her at all. Instead say yes mom you're right and then do whatever you think is best.
In summary avoid arguments with people who can't argue with out making the argument about character but for yourself learn to argue about principles without making judgments about the character of people who hold different opinions.
2007-03-12 00:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of screaming, pick up a pen and notebook and write down what you're feeling. Don't utter a sound, just keep writing. This will get you calmed down, is therapeutic, and is more productive than yelling and screaming. You might want to give your mom a pen and notebook as well. :)
2007-03-12 00:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, bite your tongue, and go somewhere like your room and sit down, and do something that will distract you, such as flipping through a magazine, etc. Learn to block out the 'noise'. Or simply tell the person who is screaming at you, "Please, I heard you. Calm down and we can talk this over instead of screaming/shouting at each other." Hope it helps =)
2007-03-12 00:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Hoopies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two people to argue.
2007-03-12 00:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by fra_bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
argue about the reason, it is tiring but exercise brain too
2007-03-12 00:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Henry W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person & walk away.
2007-03-12 00:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋