My mom wants to divorce my dad, she has for years now. She's tried to 3 times, and the last time even got a house but he sucked her back into it.
Things got so bad with my sister and him, he kicked her out and now hes starting on me. He treats my mom like dirt, and freaks on me for the littlest thing. He's so abusive, as a child, it was a little more physical, now its at the point where its both emotional and mental.
Yesterday I was moving my leg and the car was moving and i'm like "sorry, I didn't know I was that strong" and hes like "I'm pretty sure its not because your strong that you make everything in the car shake when you move"
I personally, can't stand him anymore, and I have no idea how to deal with him anymore. My mom wants to break up with him so badly but is struggling (25 yrs of marriage) How can I help give her the strength to leave him? She deserves so much better...
2007-03-11 16:21:53 · 3 answers · asked by toronto_leafs 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
My sister left because of problames with my dad, hes not so bad with my brother and I've considered therapy before...
2007-03-11 16:34:12 · update #1
Let your mom know that you support HER. She's probably afraid of the financial consequences of leaving her marriage. If not, then she has convinced herself that she can't leave him. It's a very sick, but common situation. If she knows you agree with her decision to leave, it might give her the strength to leave. She sounds like she's stuck in a codependency mindset. She probably thinks she's the only one who truly "understands him" and that he "needs her." The truth is: He will never change but she keeps hoping he will. She needs to leave and finally have some peace and joy in her life.
2007-03-11 16:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by MashaMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that is as or more important to your mum is her children she may feel like she's not worth better but at the least she should no that you and your siblings deserve better from him and you deserve to have a happy mum and a happy home. Try to convey to her how much this is affecting every one not just her. It took me to leave my mum for a whole year when i was 15 and i sent my younger brothers to live with more stable family and after that year she realised what was important and now everything she does is to create a happy stable home for us. Hope this helps...
2007-03-11 16:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 years is along time to be without a bond.you and your mum are stuck in a rut,it ain't easy ,but i recon a trial separation might give you and mum some breathing space .
2007-03-11 16:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by COLIN M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋