how can i deal with exaggerated self-competition and self-criticism?

Question

two very different things, yet strongly related. I am overly competitive, especially with myself - i'm perhaps a perfectionist, now that i think about it.
at the same time, i'm way too critical with myself and accept no mistakes in whatever i do.
i tend to take both attitudes to the extreme, which is obviously counterproductive on a daily basis and is a mere waste of energy.

aware of all this though, i still can't get rid of either of them. or even tone them down.

anyone else have this problem? what can one do?

Answer 1

Have you tried therapy? I think you may have grown up in a household where perfection was required.Get to the root of the problem and then you may be able to heal.

Answer 2

I have perfected imperfection. There is nothing wrong with being competitive and striving to achieve perfection in what ever it is that you do, but it you don't like making mistakes, then you don't like learning. Read some 400 B.C. Confucius---The Tao. Ancient Oriental philosophy.

Answer 3

Make a LONG and thorough list of your good qualities and when those negative thoughts come, pull out your list and validate them, negating the overly critical thoughts.

Answer 4

I think I have this problem but it's not as extreme as your case. I think you need to seek psychological help because it's the only way you can educate yourself more on these issues. Once you know more about it, the more you can heal yourself. Seek help immediately.

Answer 5

induce the concept of time, many mistake can be fixed for better tommorow / become better tommorow.
aware the growth concept.
it takes time to grow , it takes time to become perfect.

impatient is not a perfection
a perfect timing is hard to master