Do I pursue a relationship with my curious friend or move on with my sexuality?

Question

I have a female friend who I have grown fairly close friends with over the past few months. I recently discovered that I am Bi-sexual and am insanely attracted to her. I brought it up to her but she suggested that we keep it strictly platonic since she's not so sure herself. Although she tells me all the time about dreams she has about women giving her pleasure and that she sometimes watches porn with lesbians in them, is this a sign that she wants to tap into these feelings. she says she's afraid to live the lifestyle openly but it is becoming uncomfortable for me to be near her,(late night crashing, going out for drinks, anything.) Do I wait for her to come around since I ultimately want her to be my girlfriend and treat her the way she needs to be treated or do I continue on my long search of finding someone else as I'm just now steppin into this lifestyle freshly myself?

Answer 1

It's not polite to out someone, who isn't ready. They may try to deny that part of themselves, producing many years of self-imposed unhappiness.

What you need to be doing is, giving her a "safe" place to explore this new side of herself. If, as you say, you want her as your gf yet you are bi, then surely you have been pursued and seduced? Wasn't the attention a bit flattering? Well now it's your turn.

If you have somewhere private, you could get some lesbian porn and have a "movie night". Be romantic. (Note how I refrain from mentioning fancy liquor). Try shoulder rubs or foot massage, letting her enjoy the sensation of being touched by you.

I've heard mixed reports on the success of breast exams, "checking for lumps". Decide for yourself.

Answer 2

you do no longer take relationships from 0 to ninety in a bat of an eye fixed. save no expectancies in any respect, merely start up of with dating (do no longer care if the guy is unique at this element). See if some thing builds up, take babysteps. The time it takes to finally grow to be boyfriends relies upon on the chemistry. you do no longer could desire to furnish your coronary heart out perfect. supply it bit by way of bit and you may by no skill once you lose your coronary heart to somebody. Yeah no longer all relationships artwork out, it human to experience insecure, completely valid. yet having stated that the motivation to place your self accessible is large too ain't it?