i was a sandblaster for 11 years.i was always told i was the best worker they have ever seen then i blow out 7 discs in my back they find out and fired me.have a suit going for 21/2 years now last year i lost my left lung and 25% of the other almost died cause sandblasting i caught my wife after i got out of the hospital in an online affair.it has been a year now and im still hurting i feel as everyone 1 has threw me away i lost my job i am now totally disabled and then i catch her with this i love my wife and my 3 kids but i dont know what to do if i lose the case i feel they would do better if i just disappear from there lives. i am a worthless human being that has no purpose but to be a very heavy burden only being 42 yrs. old. my wives family is very wealthy but they do not care i have heard by a liable source they would take care of my wife and kids if she left me. i gave my job my wife and my kids everything i could and more but now i have no meaning
2007-03-11 15:39:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am truely sorry for your situation and for the position that life has put you in. When faced with issues that I feel that are so overbearing I remember a piece of good advice my mom gave me once. She said hun God never shuts a door without opening a window. I do not know if you believe in God and it is not any of my business. I feel that you should get on something for your depression yes. I also feel that thinking your kids would be better off without you is totally false. Your wife's family may beable to take care of them finacialy but no amount of money can replace that you are their father and that you love them. As for your wife I think it is a crapy thing. I am not coming to her defense at all but like you she is looking for relief of the burden that she is carring. Your escape was disappearing from their lives and hers was escaping to a fantasy world on the net. It seems to me that all of you should come together as a family unit and start supporting each other. If you did not have a purpose of living then instead of 25% of the lung it would have been 100% of both. You are obviously a much stronger man then you are giving yourself credit for. Some days are going to be much harder then most but on the days that are good show your family you love them and appreciate them. Start living the days that are good instead of feeling deprived of the things that are not good. Look hard there is a light at the end of the tunnel just unfortuantly we don't know how long the tunnel is.
2007-03-11 16:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude a setback does not make you a failure in life
it's never the cards you are dealt, it's how ya play your hand.
Don't worry about the outcome of a case until it is tried in court. That's the lawyers job. As for your wife? She can either stay or go but, if she can so easily run to her parents why is she even with you?
So, maybe it's your call........... on the wife part.
Life is Hard, God is Good,Pray then Plan!
2007-03-11 16:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always feel if something doesn't go right or something goes wrong- it is meant to be. Sometimes you go along with everything and something is even better over the hill, in other words theres something else in store for you, sometimes you have to let things be and let life play its part, life has been beautiful for me living with these beliefs and my life has been up and down, but always ends up good and on the bright side- just think positive.
2007-03-11 16:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously treated her bad and neglected her PRIOR to your injury... It's funny how you never really appreciate the things you have in life until they are gone.
The only thing you can possibly do is love her and MEAN IT by SHOWING her & LISTENING to her.
You have to admit she is right and you are wrong.
A marriage CAN make it if BOTH people try.
Women like to talk, so TALK to her WITHOUT getting mad.
Remember when you were dating her and the attention and kisses and little things you would do or say?
FIND THAT MAN AGAIN and be that man again, but this time -
Love your wife and your kids will learn to love unconditionally.
It's on you...
2007-03-11 15:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by 30YrOldPTAMomof3 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You have meaning, your family. If they love you they will stick by you whether you lose the case or not. Have faith in yourself. You're worth a lot more than you know =)
2007-03-11 15:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by monika 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor/therapist for your depression; you are worth so much to your children if not your wife; they love their dad and they need him! Focus on what you have and what you can do; not what you don't have or can't do. You are worthy and worth working on yourself for yourself so you can be around for those kids!
2007-03-11 15:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me that your wife is the one who has had problems with your way of supporting her. She is now having to deal with some lifestyle changes. If she doesnt like it let her take herself back to mommy and daddy but make sure she realizes that she might end up paying child support to you or alimonty.
2007-03-11 15:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋