I hate it. I live in Potomac so its really hard to know when you're spoiled. I KNOW I'm spoiled but I cant stop buying things. It's horrible. I was thinking about getting a debit card with a limit for the year so that I can have a budget instead of my parents getting everything but I know that Im gonna spend it all before the end of the year. I really need help. Its like a disease. Thanks in advance.
2007-03-11 15:35:48 · 9 answers · asked by Rox 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Please tell your parents abou tthe way you feel. Say something lik e"mom, dad, you give me everything a girl could ever want, and I really appreciate it and all, but I feel like it's getting out of hand. Im probably going to regret saying this, but I want you to put me on a weekly budget." Find out how much you really spend a week, by asking your parents if you can see your credit card statement. Lets say you looked at how much you spend in 2 months. And lets just say it's $4000, so every week youve been spending 4,000/8=$500. cut it in half $250. Tell your parents you want a debit card with a max of $250, and that it should be renewed every week. You must stop feeling guilty and start thinking more positively. Everything should be done in moderation, and I know you know that, so good luck.
2007-03-11 15:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Whole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hey!! dont be too down on yourself!! first of all, just be thankful that you HAVE this problem and you're not praying for food each day! though i know it can be a real guilt inducer. maybe you can try limiting yourself to a weekly or monthly goal or something instead or a yearly goal. at least for me its a lot easier when the little goals are in sight...not like the old "omg. santas coming. better be good for this whole year! i promise to be nice to everyone and not fight so much with my siblings." we've all heard that one before and...well....YEAH RIGHT! the debit card with a limit thing is a good idea, cuz u HAFTA stop buying eventually! lol but also what you could do is say like for every one thing you buy, you have to get rid of two things you have but never use, that way you'll be getting good stuff, and not just useless cr*p. like say you see this uber cute must have coach purse. well ok, but u hafta get rid of those socks aunt marge gave you that you never wear and the sweater that was really hot last year, but shrank. little by little you'll start to see a difference, but you MUST stick with it!!! of course, on special occasions, well....you know you cant resist going on a birthday splurge! so its ok. but for the rest of the time, just be aware of what you're spending and stuff. good luck!!!!!!
2007-03-11 15:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by scarheadlovesferret 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately an addiction caused by your foolish parents who have allowed you to live like this, shame on them for doing that. I suggest that you learn to control yourself, that is a part of being a mature, responsible adult. Start by donating a good chunk of your allowance to a needy charity, then you won't have too much to waste on yourself. At least this way someone deserving will receive much needed funds to just buy the basics.
I suggest you and your family take one day a week and serve at a food bank so you can see what it is like to not even have enough for food. That may change your lives for the better. Do you know what it feels like to appreciate what you have? I doubt it. So you need to feel grateful for what you have, then you will not be so quick to go out and get more. That is greed and is a horrible thing to deal with, it can cause your ultimate downfall in life.
2007-03-11 15:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't spoiled, but I did splurge on myself. I've learned that I had plenty of word to do within myself. I was trying to fill my empty soul by buying thing in excessive ( as well as doing other things in excess).
I learned that I had NO love for Myself.
I wake up everyday and tell myself that today I am going to take care of myself. And taking care of me doesn't mean wearing everything in high-end brands. It means being nice to me, eating healthy, exercising and doing things for others when I get a chance. Doing things for others doesn't mean enslaving myself. It means that I spend some time with an organization or people for a few hours a day or week.
Also, donating feels good!
Take care hun!
2007-03-11 15:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you donate money to a worthwhile charitable organization such as a battered woman's shelter or something for abandoned children. Also it would be good to volunteer your time at a shelter or someother place to help those in need. Even at an animal shelter or someplace that is in need.
2007-03-11 15:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by In my humble opinion... 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think your urge to shop and accumulate possessions is really like an emptiness inside. Listen to your inner thoughts and try to figure out what is missing in your life. Look for other hobbies and ways to spend time with your friends.
2007-03-11 15:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by true blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok Rox, how about you share your allowance with me;50-50. I'm a single mom, can't get enough hours at work, but also can't get any help from the state. (MI) I've been wondering all day how I'm going to get groceries for the month. I am required by my work to have car, gas, internet, and certain clothes but they don't pay me (or work me) enough to cover the expenses. my parents can't help-dad is disabled; mom is passed away. tcain109@yahoo.com
2007-03-11 15:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by tammy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the debit thing, try volunteering at shelters and soup kitchens. You can also donate alot of the things and money.
2007-03-11 15:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i guess this is why they say admitting it is the first step!!!
2007-03-11 15:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋