It's so messed up sometimes I just feel like slapping them to "put them in their place", Im treating men like dogs. I just want to start bringing guys up to the level or humans, they aren't animals. All I can think is they just want sex, and have no feelings. Is there some sort of positive thinking class I can take?
2007-03-11 15:31:24 · 7 answers · asked by Whole 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is a good question and the first step is admitting this fault. You must first understand the concept & establish your way of thinking in the fact that there are men like the ones you just described and then there are men in the world that you may be looking for as for a soul mate. Believe me, I know because I married a Good Man. There are easy ways to know when a man is sexually aggressive and sexually charged or sexually driven just by their actions and their words. These are the men that you should feel the need to slap and to "put them in their place". I don't think you should treat them like dogs or animals but to teach these men and to educate them about the opposite sex. I strongly believe that when a man or another race is taught about something they don't understand, it leads them to examine themselves or to educate themselves further on the topic.
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2007-03-11 17:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember that you are disqualifying half the human race! It is so not true that men only care about sex and have no feelings. If you had a baby boy and raised him you would know this is not true. You might be deliberately sabotaging yourself by choosing losers because you aren't feeling good about yourself. You deserve better - go find it. Have zero tolerance for loser behavior. It is early in 2007, make this the year you changed your life. Good luck!
2007-03-11 18:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by angelicsanto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A big mistake each gender makes is the assumption that men and women are alike. We are not. We are very different creatures. Part of the problem is Hollywood and Cinderella-type stories that portray men and women unrealistically. If you are expecting men to behave like Prince Charming, you are going to be as disappointed as men are who are waiting for Lolita. Many people enter relationships with a "list" of requirements that have to be met. Understanding and compatibility can occur, of course, between men and women, but, only when one lets go of all predetermined expectations and actively notices and appreciates the other person for who he or she actually is.
2007-03-11 15:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFL...sounds like you are very aware of what's really going on!
Here are a few tips; look at who you are attracted to (bad boys, guys on a lower level than you, losers), value yourself (you are great without someone so don't be desperate), know your own boundries (establish them and make them clear from the beginning so there is no question), dump the animals quickly (don't waste your time, if you are aware you can figure out within 2 dates maximum if he is worth one more).
Know that these days, men are really perverts because they look at porn and that screws up their brains (really it does, you should see the information on it) and because other ditzy bimbos have allowed them to do whatever they want.
A strong, smart and aware woman that values herself will have a much more difficult time finding someone because you have a much higher standard than the average woman. Believe me I know...
2007-03-11 15:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you just need to meet other men. Find one who's mature enough to be able and willing to break out of the stereotype. Then you'll have a better opinion of them overall. They're hard to find, but they are out there.
2007-03-11 15:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw your boundaries with men up front. Tell them flat out that they will respect you or they will not be any part of your life at all.
2007-03-11 15:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should examine yourself first. What is it about you that attracts these "sub-humans"? There's decent guys out there, though they are far and few between because our society has such a loose view of sexuality...there is nothing special about it anymore.
2007-03-11 15:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Bill W 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋