this last monday a boy i have been in class with on and off since kindergarden killed himself....(OMG thats so sad will not help so dont waste my time if that is your anwser) it was pretty bad for me...i didnt give him the time of day and he didnt want it from me.....but i had to tell his best friend (because i was the only one not crying and i could drive....) we are casual friends.....he balled and his mother whailed when she found out and i just dont know what to do....it has been almost a week and i am still picking up the peices of everyone around me.....( i have never broken down in a crisis situation and cried i wait until everyone else is okay this time i am afraid that the time when everyone is okay wont come...what should my next step be....suisides come in strings....this is the second one in 2 months....i feel lost and helpless....
2007-03-11 15:16:25 · 4 answers · asked by manthamanthers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks for caring but i am in no way suisidal...
2007-03-11 15:24:25 · update #1
Make sure to take some time for yourself...you sound like you are a giver, giving to others to support them, but don't forget that you yourself need support also.
Perhaps you have another friend that isn't in the situation that you could lean on? You really need someone that can help support and encourage you. You can't keep giving and giving to others, you will run out, unless you have someone else helping to fill you back up.
Good luck!
2007-03-11 15:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Shultik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be there for your friends and if you need to release the pain that is inside you. It will get better in time but suicide is very difficult to deal with. You keep wondering if you missed something or did enough to help a friend. Since you say it comes in strings remind your friends that suicide is not an option. Let them know there is help out there and you would help them with anything they need help with. Another way of healing may be to share some time with the boys parents as I am sure they are having a real rough time.
Good luck!
2007-03-11 15:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everyone knows someone that either gets killed or commits suicide during their school years. Although it may be a sad situation, bear in mind that you have a lot of living left and this incident will become a distant memory sooner than you think. Move on and enjoy your life.
2007-03-11 15:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a caretaker.....there are alot of people that way. I am that way. You are strong for everyone else and hold it inside when you need to. nothing wrong with it. you just need to nourish your own feelings sometimes
2007-03-11 16:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by txO3blueeyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋