Have you ever heard from an ex that hurt you very badly?

Question

My ex hurt me emotionally and mentally. He betrayed me in many ways. And we had exchanged hurtful word and I found out things about him in which I was completely shocked about. Anyhow, I helped him through so much and he acted as though we were aquaintances??!! Like we were never "together". I was with him for almost two years. Is he in denial?? Even though we told each other we dont ever want to speak to each other, I'm hurt very much. Its been a month and we have not contacted each other. I dont want to be the one to ever contact him, because I did before and he walked all over my forgiveness. This time, though I meant it, that I wish I never met him & have not attempted to contact him at all. I suppose what I want is a real apology for what he did and said to me. Do you think I will ever hear from him. I feel hurt and Im still sad, I have moved on, but that feeling of what he did to me, still hurts. Can anyone relate? Anyone ever get that apology?? Thanks.

Answer 1

yeah. my ex broke up with me a couple years ago and he got married quite recently. but then a few days ago, he called me up saying how she should have never done anything like what he did to me. fotunately, i did get an apology. but depending on your ex, you might not get one =\

Answer 2

I feel bad for your situation and I have had situations that were similar, but not that bad. Really what you have to do, and I know it is really hard, is to move on. The apology will never come if you ask for it. He will like the attention he gets and keep playing with you. I have had a time like this, and even though it was incredibly difficult, I just never talked to this person again. Then out of the blue , the contacted me and said they were sorry etc. I once kept going back and contacting the person, but that made them happy that they were on top and in control, but when you move on, you are in control! Because, if they do call you back then you win, and if they dont, you win too because they were never going to be good to you anyway. It is the only way to go,

Answer 3

First of all if you dissapear completely how does he know how to contact you. Second of all Men we are confused conflicted beings who always seem to figure it out after the mess. If he were with you would he be making the mistakes he is now? You could be the difference you could live happily ever after. Oh and what the world thinks doesnt matter when you are alone now does it? Even if you dont want to be together forgiving him would make a better life for both of you...."What do you have to lose if you lost everything already." That is how most of us guys feel after the breakup so begins a spiral of which maybe just maybe he needs to be forgiven for you to see his life has been the apology.

Answer 4

I have an ex who hurt me very bad when were together by sleeping with my friends and my sister! When he contacted me a few years ago and said he was sorry and had messed up the best thing in his life I told him to bad I liked my life better now than I did when we were together. The hurt will be there for awhile as long as you still love love him but in the mean time you need to move on with your life and forget about an appology cause chances are he will never give you one. As long as you feel this way any new relationships you get involved in may suffer from your hurt and you may wind up judging other guys by what this guy has done to you. You are still giving this guy control of your feelings and your life.

Answer 5

I am sort of in the same situation or should I say I was in the same situation. The thing I have learnt about men is whenever they are in the process of breaking up, there is always "someone else" lurking in the shadows. Very few men have grieving period because as soon as you are over they move on to the next person. What I would suggest is it better to move on.......there's a great chance that you may never get the apology that you deserve. I also wouldn't try to contact him.......as my ex once said to me "why cry over spilt milk?" as painful as it sounds.......he's right. Move on to someone who will love and appreciate you.

Answer 6

Many men find it very difficult to apologize. Others will blame everyone but themselves for their short comings. Is it that you really just want an apology or deep down something more? I believe from what you say it would be best to put him out of your life al together. He will realize one day what he has done to you. Yes, I have been there and know the hurt.

Answer 7

Apparently there is a lot of hurt still within you. This will subside slowly after awhile, along with the anger. But the bad feelings will always be there. I still get my anger up a little everytime my ex wife comes over to pick up the kids. I gues neither of us really have forgiven our ex's. I look at it as a positive though. She feels very uncomfortable when she comes over, and has told my kids she made a mistake. But it is just a little to late. I have moved on and you will too.

Answer 8

Yep, I sure have. She still has nothing good to say. She still thinks she hasn't done anything wrong. Even after being put in jail and prison repeatedly and an HCV infection. It's all deny deny and more deny.
I don't want any apology from her. All I want is for her to stay away forever and never contact me. I want her to leave me and my children alone. If I can have that then life will be good.

Answer 9

Forget the apology...what the heck is that going to change...nothing...just wipe the dust off your feet and move on. Be thankful that you were able to get free before you got sucked into a life time of hurt....Forgive him in your mind (without the apology)...so you can move on. And then don't drag the old baggage on down the road with you....but down the road you should go...good luck.

Answer 10

Yes, I can relate. No he never apologized. Even when I told him in very small words how much he hurt me. Eventually you just have to move on, and realize that some men are just *******.

Answer 11

I was with a guy for 5 years and he hurt me badly too. At first I had a hard time but we have not been together for 4 years now and he just now sent me an email telling me how sorry he was. So it will come but only when he has grown up. Good luck.