Is there anyway to see my Son?

Question

He is not my biological son. I got taken advantage by a woman from work who took all my money and time by tricking me into to believing she was a good person to move in with. I can no longer handle being around her and I am moving. But in the short 4 mnths we lived together, I took care of her son. When he did'nt have food, I fed him. I spoiled him with love and time spent together. I love him, and she just uses him for food stamps and taxes. She hurts him and screams at him for no reason. He says he loves me and he wants me to be his mother. He dos'nt want me to move. And when I do move she says I can no longer see him ever again just to spite me. She does not care he wants to see me. He's 11. And I don't think I could stand not to see him again. Anything I could do?

Answer 1

You can always report the woman for child abuse or have them checked by Social Services.

If you're so sure he's unhappy with his biological mother, tell the social services. They're the people who stop things like that. Be careful though. This woman may get your son to say everything is all right, when it's the exact opposite. It seems really hard to fight for a child to get away from their parents. If they do keep custody of the child, then they will be visited by a social worker, trying to ensure a better life.

Because you aren't the child's biological father, it's almost impossible to see the child [without parent's consent] unless you have married the woman before, while she was in custody of the child. Don't let this discourage you though. Be VERY STRONG.

Instead, go to court and have your son speak out against this woman. If he has bruises, scars, and other similar injuries, show the jury. If this woman has borrowed and not returned money, show the records. Show everyone what a mess she has done. This is injustice for this child, and I am very proud of you for trying to get a better life for him.

Be warned though. Just doing this won't get you custody of the child automatically. You must prove to the court you are financially and emotionally stable to take him. If they find you to be completely stable, and show them that you are willing to adopt, you will most likely be at the top of the list in adoption forms.

A great website is http://www.emq.org/about/index.html and they offer many child services in the California area.

You can check out google for a hotline in your area [as I do not know where you live..] but make sure you let someone now immediately. This woman can cause more harm to your son at anytime.

Be strong and hope for the best.

{actually, here is a hot line for someone out of the state of virginia: [phone]}

Answer 2

I've sometimes seen messy situations like this. My thing with this kind of situation is: "Kid's first," because their in a vulnerable position and sometimes this must take precedence over laws. Your legal position is not good but try to talk to as many as possible people from different child protection services and get him to talk to them separately, ie know all legal aspects for future negotiations. Always try to get across that you (and he) hope the situation with the mother will improve with distance. You (and he) must appear mature and morally superior.
One secret weapon is this: Usually, if a kid is running away from home, if he or she does it for the third time within a relatively short period, the parents give up. You could hint that cautiously to the kid. This is also good because it's really good if the initiative is almost all his. Understand that he might be nowhere as sure about getting away from mom and if he's not, let him stay until he is. Get him to try everything to make her treat him better. This is very important for his case (and peace of mind). He can always get your support through meetings and telephone calls.
One very good advice is this: Never talk bad about his mother to him or try to divide him from her. This is extremely important for everything further to be a success.
All the best to both of you.

Answer 3

WHAT A MESS!!! He's not your son, so I don't think there's anything you can do. You can look in the telephone directory and call for a FREE legal consultation. What about the boy's father? What does he say? So sad that children have to suffer because of adults. Maybe ask your Pasteur or religious leader. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Write down information where he can always contact you and have him memorize your full legal name and birthdate that way he can find you when he gets older. Then if you really care about him then go to Social Services and report her. They will probably put him in foster care until she gets counseling and takes parenting classes. You don't have any legal rights as far as the child is concerned but they may make arrangements for you to visit him if they deem it in the child's best interest. Good Luck. Do what is best for the child.

Answer 5

Have you ever heard of CPS?
Child
Protective
Services.
Call them with your dilemma (anonymously of course) and see what they have to say about the whole mess. The young man is very much able to relate how he feels and has rights too!
Shame on that mother for using her child!
It is your responsibility to turn in any child abuse you know about.
Not trying to lay it all on you but it may help you to keep a relationship with this young man.
Good luck honey! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Maybe you should report the mother. You could also try sucking up to re and asking if he could move in with you. Remind her of all the food she wouldn't have to by, all the time she'd have alone, and how she woldn't have to worry about college. Maybe that'd convince her. Good Luck!

Answer 8

You can't force her to let her see your "son". Try maybe visiting him at lunch time at school. But one thing is for sure, if you know that she is hurting him, then you need to call Child Protective Services. And maybe through them you can adopt him instead of him going to a foster home or group home.

Answer 9

if you feel she is abusing her child then you may be able to help him out of that environment but you need to realise that he is her child and that he needs his mother although they may not always get along. He is her responsibility and i'm sorry that you got so attached to him but breaking up a mother and son is not a good thing but as i said before if you feel it is abuse then yes i would do something about it.

Answer 10

okay this is so sad I do feel where you are coming from try not get to emotional about this some people get on your nerves I know but listen that child will always rember you and on that note he will remember that mom took you away from him.Good things will come out of this trust me as long as you keep on doing what you do and love him it will come back like karma.Do not be sad and do not stay there because of him because he will always remeber that nice man!!!