How do you deal with people?

Question

o.k, I'm a 17 year old male. But I gotta admit something shameful. I have no knowledge nor experience in my life in dealing with people in a relationship. Ever since I was small my father taught me to be always nice to people and accept them when they need me. But growing up I found life a lot different. It's that every time someone asks me for something I always say "yes" regardless of how hard the situation might be on me. Then when I ask them for something they always think twice and sometimes reject more then they accept. I'm so nice to people, I always laugh when someone makes a joke and it isn't even funny. I'm always lenient when it comes to my right, but when it comes to other people rights for my sake, they never sacrifice it for me. This is especially with my friends. My question is; how do you deal with people in a way you are not too nice and not too mean?. At the same time people would accept you and like you for who you are

Answer 1

If more people were like you, you wouldn't have to ask this question. The only shame here is that you feel like you are somehow at fault. I searched my heart for 10 min trying to find an answer to give you. I think YOU have the answer and we should be asking you questions.

Answer 2

u have to find a balance between letting people take advantage of u and being a nice, giving person. when someone asks something of u..if it is too much of a burden on u then u really have to learn to say no..and u CAN do that in a nice way where people wont take it as u being too mean. if u think what they're asking is reasonable and that they might do the same for you.. then fine, help them out. i dont know if this helps.. but good luck

Answer 3

I always keep in mind the following things:

I cannot change the way other people behave.

I can only change my behavior, my thoughts, and my attitude.

People are "mean" because they are hurt and they are either trying to make me feel the same way someone made them feel or trying to gain power from me.
When I keep this in mind, I can see other people as wounded souls who are trapped within thier own mentality so they must be miserable. When I see other people this way, it's sooo much easier for me to sincerely smile at them and sometimes even hug them.

I just say no if something is inconvenient for me or if it's going to make me feel uncomfortable.

Answer 4

You need to start just being yourself. Being a good person doesn't mean kissing up to people who don't ever do anything for you.

Stay as sweet as you are, but don't overdo it--you'll be fine. :)

Answer 5

I feel for you. I too have a problem that is different yet related to your own. All I can really say is: "To thine own self be true." Do what YOU feel is right, that's all anyone can do.

Answer 6

You need to establish goals for yourself and prioritize them. Prioritizing means say "no" to things that do not contribute toward your goals.