Ladies (or men), how long after having a baby did your sex life resume?

Question

Was that time ok with you? or would you have liked it to resume later or sooner than it did?

Answer 1

i had sex after my 6 wk check up and i wish i would have waited because my sex drive was zero and now i am pregnant again (but my first child is 1 now) but i still wish i would have waited

Answer 2

After one of the births my hormones were out of control and I ended up having sex at 4 weeks, with the rest we waited at least the 6 weeks and the longest was 9 or 10 weeks.

The one that I waited 4 weeks was all about me and wanting to, the hormones there. Some of the times that we waited were because I had no sex drive, some were just no time.

Answer 3

My OBGYN recommended a 6 week wait after giving birth, but we waited almost 3 months because my sex drive was virtually equal to zero. After three months it's starting to come back again... but it is still not really comfortable to have sex yet. I ripped a bit when I gave birth and it seems like the healing period is longer than I thought. My Dr. says it's healed, but it still hurts a bit without using extra lube. It's been three and a half, almost four months and now I can enjoy having sex a little better. My friends who had babies tell me that after six months it will be alright again, but it will never feel the same as before. Well, we'll see :). Hopefully, soon I'll be okay. 'Cause to tell you the truth I really miss "IT".

Answer 4

We waited till about a week before my 6 week check up, was advised this was for the best so I could discuss any problems at the check up.

(sorry missed the rest of the question)
Timing was ok but would of preferred it to be sooner lol
I think it depends on how you feel everyone is different, when you feel ready is the best time and not before.

Answer 5

when I had an infant in the house, the last thing I wanted to do was have another person 'hanging' on me. I tried, I really did, but it just wasn't the same.....especially when I was breastfeeding. I believe in both instances, we resumed sex right at the recommended time by doctors, I had csections and I believe it was somewhere between four and six weeks.

Answer 6

Doctor said we needed to wait 6 weeks but we couldn't. We ended up having sex 4 wks after the birth. I think that was a good time. I wasn't sore anymore from the episiotomy and was definitely wanting sex then.
good luck

Answer 7

I waited until after my 6 week checkup with my first son and with my second it was longer, I had a really hard delivery with him and it was the last thing I wanted to do. I have a friend that had sex 1 week after birth. I think it varies for everyone.

Answer 8

I had a C-Section and the doctor told us to wait a month (until after my postpartum appt.) before having sex again. We wound up doing the deed the week before. The time period wasn't THAT bad...but our sex life resumed pretty quickly.

Answer 9

iam 40 years old and been married 22 years i have 3 daughters and as far as sex its about 4 weeks after birth but let me tell you it dont fell the ame for the guy for a long time after that exspecially if the girl had to have stitches but it does eventually go back to normal

Answer 10

After my son was born, we had sex after my 6 week checkup, but as far as hormones I could have cared less if we had sex again. It took a good 6 months to a year to get over the C-Section and get your hormones back to normal.

Answer 11

I think that is a very personalized question....based on the way the mother (her emotions, energy, etc) and the father (is he working overtime, helping during the night, not interested in a newborn) perceive the new life and are balancing it with each other. Have a new baby can be tough!