I'm a guy and one day I hope to marry a virgin but ofcourse i'll marry whoever i fall in love with virgin or not. I'm just afraid my future wife will always remember her first and think of him and about it even if she might love me. A part of him will always be with her and vice versa. Is this how you feel? It would be nice to think that my wife saved herself just for me and thought and cared about me years before i met her...
2007-03-11 14:59:44 · 37 answers · asked by Alpha7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um dont you think that most women would like to think that they are the first and only love in their husbands life too? Nobody likes to think that their partner once loved other people but once you hit a certain age theres not much you can do about it. I'd rather be equal in experience to my partner rather than one being so much less or more -then the jealouslies cant take over in the relationship for me or the man.
2007-03-11 15:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you what. I remember my first( and I thought I was in love) and I haven't talked to him in almost 9 years. Yes I remember some things about some of our experiences but I don't recall what we talked about. Sex is just sex until you meet the man/woman that you love and want to marry. I enjoy sex with my husband more you just jive together the relationship is a lot stronger. Yes part of my ex is still with me and I will always cherish our memories. But that is what they are just memories we all move on and live stronger than ever before. We learn from our experience good or bad. I would never change who I first had sex with, I did it for a reason because I loved him as much as one nieve person who had a idea of what love was, however I really didn't know until I met my husband.
2007-03-19 10:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Alsign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman. It seems a lot of people these days don't take it that seriously anymore. More mistakes are made because people CHOOSE wrongly; they marry for the wrong reasons--the sex is great, the person is attractive to them, or they have the right kind of background, or job, or money. Successful marriage is in making the best choice of partner.
To you, I would say, if being a virgin is important to you, that you date women who are and who hold the same level of value on their virginity. Otherwise, you will probably find yourself doubting her love for you, or wondering if she comparing you to the man (or men) in her past.
Find a woman who shares your values in life, who laughs at the same things, who takes the same things seriously, who shares your beliefs about people and how to treat them, etc. The more alike you are in the way you think and act in the world will make for success.
If you find yourself falling in love with a woman who has had sex with someone else, be prepared to ask yourself some very tough questions.
I made a bad choice in marriage partner. Not that he was or is a bad person, not just the best person for me. It resulted in an 18 year miserable marriage and divorce.
But I have now found a man who shares my values and outlook upon life and I look forward to a beautiful future partnership.
2007-03-17 10:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by Vonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the first guy I slept with and that turned out to be a match made in hell! Now that I am older and married to a great guy I do not regret that. In my first marriage I was always wondering if there was something better out there and if so what. But I don't think of the guys I have slept with before I got married because I love my husband and he is who I want to be with. But If you are lucky enough to find a virgin in this day and age I hope it works great for you.
2007-03-11 15:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 you have awesome morals!
#2 If she really loves you then it is not just sex but making love! Making Love is the only thing to explain the amount of intimacy, love and connection that is made between you and your spouse. She will remember nice times with the EX but then there is a reason why they are not together! Women mature more on that aspect then you want to give us credit for! When you make her feel special and wanted in every sense of the word, HE will be so far from her mind that he may not even exist!!
2007-03-19 07:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not how I feel. Get over it. That is just your ego and insecurities talking. If you want a virgin, be a virgin. Don't waste some poor woman's time getting to know you and you start with "was he good" or "was he as good as me" or "will part of him always be with you" (lol).
In fact why don't we save everyone some trouble by tatooing "Insecure guy" on your forehead so unsuspecting women can see you coming. You can avoid the tatoo by joining a monastery.
2007-03-19 05:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all about sex. It's great if you marry a virgin. If you don't, she probably isn't thinking about "him" in a nice way. Which is why she moved on and later comes to meet u. Perfect example: I had sex before married and trust me, now I hate the bastard because he abused me. Now I am married with someone else. I love this man and is the world to me because he makes me happy and loves me too.
2007-03-11 17:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Drifter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be nice, but that is rare now a days. It is like she will always remember the first boy she kissed. I am now married and had sex before I was married and it does not change the way I think about my husband or the way he thinks of me.
2007-03-19 08:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that's stupid. Your insecurities are showing up in that question. I was a virgin when I met my husband (not on my wedding night, but only with him) and I sometimes think that I have missed out on the opportunity to see what other "people" would be like. I would never cheat on my husband and I can't complain about our "relationship" but I just never got to have other experiences, good or bad. Don't be so quick to assume you only want a virgin.
2007-03-19 04:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by watching-OK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think of my past lovers at all concerning their prowess in bed. I might think of them if I hear their favorite song or I see that their favorite comedian is coming into town. The thought is fleeting. But to think about them in a sexual manner, NO, that is not happening.
You see the thing is this, only a virgin can require a virgin on their wedding night. If you have had sex then what is good for the gander is good for the goose.
2007-03-11 15:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋