What is your opinion on corporal punishment?

Question

I was spanked as a kid, I turned out fine. I have seen parents held hostage by a 4 yr old who won't behave himself. What is the fine line between a responsible spanking and child abuse? What worked for you when you were a kid? This is huge issue. . What do you think.

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Answer 1

I think corporal punishment just teaches kids that the bigger person wins.... not a good lesson

There are so many different ways to discipline a child & actually let them LEARN something, without hitting them....

Answer 2

My Mother used an apple switch on me and that really got my attention. I have , also, seen that 4 yr. old that wouldn't behave themselves while the parents looked the other way. The fine line is a quick swat and a beating. A beating of more than a quick swat. Some parents , once they get started, don't know when to quit and the child gets hurt.
I only had to feel that switch one time to know that it wasn't for me and that my Mother actually was the BOSS. My Father never ever hit me...he probably should have. I was more fearful of my Mother. Who did I respect more? That is a tuff one...fear/respect? I was literally afraid of my Mother...but, I also played with my Fathers' head to get what I wanted. He was the push-over.
Years ago abuse was never thought of...it was just the way it was....private business that went on in peoples' homes.
The answer? 1 swat or maybe even 2. 2 or more swats is getting a tad bit serious!

Answer 3

I don't like it! I was beaten as a child it took me a long time to deal with that however i NEVER beat my own children....ask yourself what does it teach a child if you hit them for hitting someone else....for my own children different things worked for each of them at different things....like a time out chair, taking toys away or for my son taking away his video game ot even just the thought of it done it for him, sometimes i would just have give go outside and run around the house a couple times if they where getting all full of energy, letting them have a special place that's it's ok to go and scream was always good, we had an apple tree and the kids where allowed to pick up the bad ones and throw them at the rocks in the ditch if they where feeling angry and needed to work off some frustrations, my son would beat this tree we had with sticks, people have to relize that children need ways to work off frustration it's when it's all held in that it gets very distructive. also parents ask yourselfs if your 'spanking' because it makes YOU feel better> if so then that's abuse and NOT displine!

My sons girl friend could not believe that he had NEVER been spanked.....

Answer 4

I was spanked as a kid too but my parents went too far. These days you can't even tap a kid on the behind without having the Childrens Aid at your door. The kids run the world, they are rude and there is nothing we can do about it. Kids know all the ins and outs of the law. We are the ones being held hostage.

Corporal punishment is good for crooks and people who break the law. But kids need the good old fashioned discipline too, especially in school.

Answer 5

when i was a kid my mom 'smacked' me once and my dad hit me w/ a piece of paneling-but most of my life f/ 11-15 i was grounded-responsible spanking is not doing so in a rage-rage would indicate abuse-also i feel it needs to be age and crime appropriate-i have on occasion spanked my two older children when they have been so out of control that i couldn't get anything else to work-and i felt horrible afterwards and guilty, that's why it's a last ditch kinda thing ♥

Answer 6

undertake this custom. i will take it one step further. over the final 10 years or so, I certainly have observed an alarming vogue especially those this is definitely no longer something extra effective than a feeling of entitlement. To be a citizen (very own land, a employer or to vote) one ought to serve a term of protection rigidity provider of a minimum of two years. in addition to, a juvenile who's tried and convicted of a criminal offense the place belongings injury is the end result the 2d time will serve his/her sentence at the same time together with his/her mothers and dads. a 0.33 conviction might bind the juvenile over to the state for the term of the sentence the place they might carry out community provider below heavily supervised situations. i will guess that i'm no longer the only one over the age of 30 to be certain this feeling of entitlement. and that i will guess that there are various which will ***** and whine approximately my comments. yet I guess Michael Fay will in no way...EVER injury somebody else's belongings returned.

Answer 7

I think spanking is fine when done for the right reasons. Kids need to know that you are the adult and the punishment is a consequence of their choice/behavior. However; it should NOT be overused or done in a fit of anger and should be stopped by a certain age (5-6 years) when reasoning and developmental understanding allows you to punish in other ways.

Answer 8

People should pay attention and learn how to parent before they have children & then corporal punishment won't be necessary.

We have to get an education in everything we do before we're allowed to do it....why not the most important job...being a parent.

Answer 9

If not done right, it can be a MAJOR disaster. Be careful with their PRIVATES.

Answer 10

I never once had to hit my son.