I am almost adult 20 years old. She always watches me, even in the moment when I need privacy. She always must know what I do in my room. She enters quickly without notice to my room from time to time. I work on 2 important goals in my life, that she (probably unconsciously) she disturbs me in achieving. First of all I study a lot, I went to university and work adequately on homework. But there are 2 other important goals that are social and without them life seems to me yucky. First of all I do not have friends and I am looking for them. Well I meet my classmates at school but I always end up only on nice talk. Never got invited to hang out. My mother forces me to go to church to have me become more religious every Sunday. I do not look forward it, I am more like spiritual not fundamentalist. I only look forward to see myself and others happy in life. Second I started to work out, build muscles and for that I bought whey protein shake to repair muscles and build new. [continue...]
2007-03-11 14:37:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
... And I bought vitamin supplement. Now then she argues with me that I will damage liver (proper amount of protein and vitamins doesn't). She just instead of meniton to consult my doctor or nutritionist, she is judge! I tried to convince her, but she won;t listen. Btw today I drove to my school to meet with my classmats to work on an important project. After that I went to gym to work out, for not too long. After return home and she got to know that I went to gym. She got mad that instead of going to church I went to gym! Even it took me additional 20 miles both ways after driving 60 miles from school. You get that? My situations may seem to be funny. What are your answers?
2007-03-11 14:43:12 · update #1
going to church does not make me opportunity to meet people there. All there people are usually old or families. There are no there individuals like me. Oh and we are Polish and we go polish church. I used to go to also american masses and they little differ from polish. And also culture among people too. And most those people there do not smile, they are not kind. Thats what I notice in my local churches!
2007-03-11 14:52:13 · update #2
CALM DOWN!!! Go talk to a therapist, if you can. It will help you get a handle on this issue.
I understand that you think she is the issue, but you must remember a couple of things:
1. You are an adult and for whatever reason are allowing this situation to continue.
2. You are being affected negatively by this situation and need a clear unbias view of how to handle it.
3. You are responsible for your happiness. Maybe it is time for you to start either setting boundries with your mother (ie. you don't want to go to church and she needs to stay out of your room) or you need to move out of the house.
..and, by the way, you type as if you might be alittle manic right now. I am not sure if it because you are pissed off at the situation or are in a manic episode right now (it takes one to know one ;)) Either way, you need to take some action.
Good luck and take care.
2007-03-11 14:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are living under her roof, it's gonna be hard to avoid conflict such as this. I recommend locking your door, if possible. This may cause an argument, but stay calm as you explain you need your privacy as a young adult. Remember, she won't be happy about it, but it won't help if you yell like a little kid throwing a temper tantrum.
Ask the minister at your church if there are programs for young singles. Perhaps volunteer around the community. See if there are co-ed clubs in your area with the same interests. Maybe take up yoga or tai chi, as those are spiritual, physical, and more pleasant for females than a typical gym.
2007-03-11 15:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle F. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are almost 20 years old? You sound much younger. Perhaps your mother has sheltered you too long and stunted your social growth.
Going to church is something you should probably put up with for now. You can meet people and make friends there, social and business friends.
Talk to your mom about boundaries. Tell her it is time to set healthy boundaries in preparation of you separating your life from hers.
2007-03-11 14:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you actually gave it a chance and did some church shopping, and found out if Jesus really has a plan for you in your life, you might be surprised! Perhaps the church your mom goes to does not fit your needs. I had a problem like that! I hated church and thought God was always mad at me or disappointed in me. Until I was invited by one guy to this really awesome church just recently! It's so welcoming, nonjudgmental and people there actually support me and help me! It's more liberal and hands clapping like, but my mom sees a lot of change in me and in fact, I God revealed himself to me in a whole new way! He is not disappointed in me, He loves me and He wants the best life for me! So, God has been showing me new things about life and myself in general, like I have realized that I am not gay, I simply need to become a real man! And to all of those out there who are saying I am a fool, try living a gay life and than come back to me! I was abused when I was a kid, and God will help me get that worked out! And it was because of my mother's prayers that I found God in such a different but amazing way!
Perhaps, you need to get more connected with your dad if you have one and put some boundaries in a GOOD MANNER with your mom! She is your mother after all! She will back you up in the time of need, not any one else, trust me! It happened to me before! All those people who say she's controlling b**ch probably do not have good relationships with their parents, nor have any respect to them, are arrogant and selfish, do not listen to them!
2007-03-11 17:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by timekiller 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is manipulative, interfering and controlling and desperate about losing her baby. Her problem. Live your life without her control. Really want a life? Get your own place.
2007-03-11 14:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by observing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a trained Psychiatrist.
From what you describe, I have a pretty good idea that what you are suffering from is Schizophrenia and possibly Bipolar II.
How long have you thought that people are "watching you"?
You have a chemical imbalance that needs to be corrected. You have elevated seratonin and dopamine levels. That is what is making you act this way.
You need to see a psychiatrist immediatly. Ask him to put you on Respiridone and Lithium.
Once you are properly diagnosed you need to inform the motor vehicle branch and let them know that you are potentialy a dangerous driver because of a mental illness.
Trust me... I have been doing this for 25 years. I know schizophrenia when I see schizophrenia and I am sorry to say.... you have it!
You may need to spend a few weeks in a mental hospital. You will get the proper medications there.
Once you are treated, you will find that your life will improve
2007-03-11 14:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
The biggest problem with people spaying over your shoulder is all the dog hair and blood that drips on your shirt...
2007-03-11 14:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by mmd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're almost an adult you are almost ready to move out.
2007-03-11 14:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋