I have been dating this girl for 4 months and she has everything I and every guy can want very pretty, nice body, nice personality, and smart. She is pressuring me to some extent to sleep with her. In my mind I want to do it because I know that she is the kind of woman that almost every guy would like and that she cares for me. However on the other hand I want to wait longer. As a male should I do it or no and why?
2007-03-11 14:33:52 · 19 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No dont do it
2007-03-13 03:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have a serious conversation with her about the pros and cons of pre-marital sex.
The pros are obvious, temporary superficial pleasure, which only asks for more, it never gets fulfilled.
The cons are a long list:
Numerous statistics show that girls who engage in premarital sex will tend to have multiple partners in their lives. Do you, or does she want that?
Multiple sex partners will imply severe danger of STDs, because every man could be a carrier of something that was passed to him, and stays dormant until it hits a female body.
Statistics also show that pre-marital sex is one of the major causes of female poverty. The chances of pregnancy, even with all the precautions are high, and ALL studies show that women who commit abortion in their youth always have psychological or health problems later in life. If they opt to stay with the child, then they face enormous difficulties unless there is a good man, with a stable job, by their side.
If you really love this girl you will want what will make her happy, not what will bring her future problems, isn't it right? Would you be prepared now to maintain her and a child if one came?
If she pressures you again (or if you feel horny yourself) go do some research about these issues and them explain to her why it is wise to wait, rather then indulge in what the hormones are pushing you to do.
2007-03-11 21:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Roberto B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you want to be with this person forever, trust me and wait until you guys get married! It will be a LOT better. Plus if this girl is "pressuring" you to sleep with her, that tells me that she's either been with other guys and had the same experience or she's just EXTREMELY weak. Sure she may be smart and perfect or whatever, but if you'll find out how much she REALLY loves and cares about you if you tell her you WON'T do ANYTHING until marraige.
-sirK
2007-03-11 21:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by -sirK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never sleep with someone just because they are pressuring you or because you know every other guy would do it. If you want to Wait then you should wait, if she really cares about you she will respect that fact. Good for you a guy will some real morals.
2007-03-11 21:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. you need to listen to yourself sometimes. You should wait. I don't know how old you are but listen TO ME!!! BIGGEST MISTAKE i ever made was to break mines BEFORE I GOT OUT OF SCHOOL and college. when u break it u comeinto a new world. and that new world is another temptation that u will have to deal with during your school years and/or career years.
Don't listen to society. God didn't make it for us to sleep with 2000 women. even if it's been happening in the past that's not how he entended it to be. get married first then break it. focus on your career and all of that first.
good l uck man. DO THE RIGHT THING. if she can't understand it then she's a woman u don't want to be with anyways. (hole)
2007-03-11 21:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by lfis492aa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about how you feel. If she understands you and cares about your feelings then open up to her. Take her to dinner or lunch and then tell her that you want to just wait a bit longer on the sleeping thing. Some guys are not good at telling how they feel, but try it and see the outcome.
2007-03-11 21:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by HardyzChik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stick to your morals and what you think. if you feel as if you aren't ready then you will regret it, especially if you find someone you know you would want to give your virginity to her. Having sex in a relationship changes a lot of things as well. Don't let her pressure you into it.
2007-03-11 21:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by loveablegirlybg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with being male or female. It's what you are comfortable with. If you want to wait...wait. If she is pushing you and not understanding, maybe she isn't the one the give yourself to.
2007-03-11 21:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by BoredinVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say it's nice to see a guy want to wait! If you don't feel ready don't do it! You may regret it later.If she likes you that much she'll understand!
2007-03-11 21:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa T (Stop BSL) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had met a girl like that. In my day we had to do all the chasing and asking. Where on earth did you find her. If you think she is the one for you then go for it.
2007-03-11 21:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything you are not comfortable with, it's called peer pressure my friend. If you don't think you're ready for sex then skip it until you know you wont regret it.
2007-03-11 21:37:43 · answer #11 · answered by I MISS YOU! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋