i gave oral sex to one of my guy friends. i didnt think he was gay or bi until that night when what he initiated finished with me giving him oral sex. how do i know if he is gay, bi or straight and he was just experimenting. he doesnt talk to me the same way now. it seems like he feels he has to justify everything, like instead of saying "im talking to somebody" he says "im talking to my future girlfriend" he never used to do that and he even told me when we had just met that he didnt have a girlfriend because it would ruin his plans. how do i know if he is bi, gay, straight or just plain confused!!!???
2007-03-11 14:15:16 · 13 answers · asked by crazylilguy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd put money on "confused". He probably enjoyed it more than he was willing to admit.
He also has to wonder if you want a relationship, or even if you want him to Return The Favour.
Being the receiver of a gay BJ is one thing. Ask anyone too drunk to realise that "woman" is a man. PERFORMING, however, is a whole other level.
Relax, be cool, let him progress (or retreat) in his sexual exploration at a rate he finds comfortable. Just don't let him use you then abuse you. Maintain your self-respect.
2007-03-11 19:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it at all. I knew when I was a lot younger but I hadn't done anything about it at 15. I'm gay and I have lots of straight friends. They all know I'm gay and have no problem with it. I have two particularly close straight guy friends. Some straight guys would let a gay friend give them a beejay. I know this from personal experience. I think they are more "bi-" than straight. All kinds of sex feel great! I consider myself "gay," not "bi-." I've tried to have straight sex, and sort of did a couple of times, but it's not what I'm really turned on by. I'm a lot older than you, but I'll be glad to answer your questions. You can add me as a contact if you like.
2016-03-29 00:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that either he regrets what you guys did or he just doesnt "want" to be gay... i'd say he's either bi or gay. let him know you are bi if he doesnt already know but make sure you do it casually. drop it in a conversation, ya know, make some story anout some kid that you were friends with when you were little maved away but youve kept in touch and he has recently told you he's bi and mention how you think you might be too. if he already knows then make sure he knows you're his friend and will accept him however he is...
2007-03-18 00:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by bj200420042004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! What guys will do to get a ********! How can you even call yourself bi? The whole 'masturbate me and let's make a lifestyle out of it' reeks from these descriptions of encounters. Somewhere in this guy's psyche, he knows that a heterosexual lifestyle is going to be his choice because the whole homosexual hook up and masturbate scene is just too creepy. He's trying to make that choice and keeps falliing for the quick fix - the gay guys just jump right in there and will give a ******** at the drop of a hat and he knows it. It's too frickin easy - with a girl, you at least have to buy her dinner. You claim that you are bi - think about your choices and what they mean. What a creepy life. If you were a girl, I'd tell you to make a meaningful relationship happen with a vibrator.
2007-03-19 01:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think he was just experimenting, which is rude. But I think so because of the my future girlfriend thing. That was a clear sign for you to back off.Sorry.
2007-03-19 12:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be first;let your male friend go first;invite him over for a sleepover and see if he makes moves on you first;you could take him to a gay/bi club;and see how he reacts;if his actions hurt your feelings;he may be stright;most gay/bi people dont go around hurting people;never make the first move;let your male friends come on to you first;talk to him about the way you feel;hope things go well for you;perhaps you should stay in closet til you know about male friends;i'm looking for a friend;check your friends out before you commit;friend;end.
2007-03-17 06:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id just talk to him about it after all u have already given him a bj! but if u don't want anything more id just leave it and just go on like it didn't happen if i wanted to keep him as a friend and not frighten him off ; )
2007-03-19 13:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is just confused give him some space to find out what he wants to do but don't avoid him he may need your help
2007-03-17 12:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by J L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if his penis has been in your mouth he's at least bi. preiod. that may change down the raod depending on how comfortable he is with it.... but...
2007-03-18 13:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
were you under the influence of any thing? (other than lust?) If not maybe he is unsure about himself and is trying to be someone he isn't to please society.
2007-03-18 09:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋