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2007-03-11 14:11:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, most people do. they do it to see if they can live together, if they can't what's the point in getting married to someone you can't stand to live with?
2007-03-11 14:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all... you need to do what you and your fiance think is right, not what anybody else thinks.
That being said...
My personal opinion is that it is very important to live together first. There are things that you will learn about each other that you can only learn once you co-habitate. Personal hygeine habits and housekeeping are major issues for couples. And, people tend to "stop being polite" and "start being real" only after living together. People behave differently when they are together all the time as opposed to just dating. Sometimes this doesn't affect your relationship at all, sometimes it becomes a problem.
Marriage is the most important desision to make, so I believe in making a well-informed choice.
2007-03-11 14:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kynthia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! Definitely. My fiance and I have been living together for about 5 years now. We actually just got engaged about a month ago. I have to tell you that a lot of people think that 2 people who aren't married shouldn't live together but I think it's crap. I am glad that I have been able to get accustomed to all my fiance's little quirks. and vice versa. Sometimes people will wait until they are married to move in together and then once they do, they have a really hard time getting used to being together all the time. Really when it comes down to it, it's a personal decision between you and your fiance. Good luck :)
2007-03-11 14:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by kainsmommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? What are the reasons for living together? This is really a personal decision. What do your families think of the idea? If you are going to buy a home and need to do that now then I would say go ahead. If you are simply living together to live together I would advise you to wait it out. If you are not sure you'll be able to live together and want to try that out....put the wedding off for a little while. I think there are too many variables to answer that question as is.
2007-03-11 14:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you go to buy a car do you drive it off the lot after singing contract or do youtest drive it?Ummmm--it is that simple I say YES live together before marriage if that is your plan,I don't believe in shacking up but if both of you have the same outlook on your relationship as far as the future consist of then I believe that you shouldn't even be doubting yourself.It takes very strong individuals to exsist as Happily Married and a Happy Home lays the grounds for a Happy Marriage-besides that to get married then the same day moving in together sounds a tad overwhelming and you should be settled in your home prior to your wedding so you can fully focus on you both instead of adjusting to your new surroundings,good luck!
2007-03-11 15:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by my2cents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel if you know you want to be with him the rest of your life and you plan to marry him with all your heart there is nothing wrong with living with the guy as long as you plan to marry sometimes this is good to know him better and see if everyday life works out with the 2 of yous. But if all is good get married don't put if off or maybe that may never happen.
2007-03-11 14:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in casual premartial sex...HOWEVER....if you are 100% sure that this is the man you will marry then I think you should live with him for a time before marriage. Probably if more people had a 'trial run' there would not be so many divorces.
2007-03-11 16:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Maiden Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do not approve of people living together before they are married but alot of people do live together then they get married. I have known people who have lived together then gotten married and then got divorced. My son and his wife had lived together for awhile then they were married and they have been married for almost 10 years.
2007-03-11 14:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I will give you a definite piece of advice. and use it! LIVE WITH A GUY BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED! they say to live together, because someone may be in love but when you move in together its totally opposite. ive been with my b/f for 2 1/2 years and i moved in with him after a year and a few months. before i just couldnt stop thinking about him and when i seen him i got butterflies and all the other wonderful stuff you feel when your in love. after i moved in with him, we started fighting a lot. and we still are. im so sick of it im about to end it and move on. good luck!
2007-03-11 14:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by *Alicia* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its a great idea! i wish i had done it! (in my country of origin its almost impossible) if had i gone for it, i might be saved as just within 2-3 days of our marriage i knew my husband is extremely scared by his mom and is totally under her controll. he can't speak anything in front of his momma and sisters and always does whatever they say even if he himself does not like it to do- and now after 4 yrs he does not think if he likes it or not- he just does whatever his mom says and gives her all his salary- she manages our house!. (that's why probably before our marriage he always kept me away from his family).
2007-03-11 14:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together and even sleeping in the same bed is fine as long as you don't have sex. i guess it all depends on what your beliefs are but if you are asking the question you may want to rethink what you believe in and how YOU feel about it.
2007-03-11 14:17:13 · answer #11 · answered by Mr.Blunt&Honest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋