At school this one kid always calls me "gay" (I'm not, I don't even see how he got that) and I choose to ignore him, because it's not worth it. And it seems like every day, I hear him say "Why do you hang out with so-so he's gay" And it's so annoying, but I don't want to start anything especially at school, I'm smarter that that. And by the way, the "kid" is sort of fat and is ugly. I could make remarks about that, but again, that would only make the problem worse. Should I care about him doing this? How should I deal with it? It's not like I get offended, it's just annoying every freaking day. It's like he has no life.
2007-03-11 13:54:04 · 15 answers · asked by casper3195 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
see you already know what to do you are smart because you ignored the kid and that's what you need to do because honestly most people you will meet are total idiots so I really wouldn't care what they say or think about you
2007-03-11 14:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by loot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely DO NOT HAVE schizophrenia as claimed by 'some' people.....For me its seems that this kid is just too annoying.....i had similar experiences..but...mine is not a gay matter of course...but i got teased with a professor and he nearly found out about this stupid rumour my friends came up with....i confronted my "friends" and they stopped the rumours... maybe you should confront this kid and tell him you are not gay!!! sometimes things might get worse if you choose to ignore it...unless you are gonna leave the school in matter of a year or weeks... ..then........you can choose to ignore him...but if u r gonna b stuck with him for a few more years you better think twice....
2007-03-11 21:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is what most of us have to face. i face the same thing at school. i find it hard to ignore it at times and i am sure you know this really well. well i know it is annoying but you know you are not gay and you should put those words aside. i do that i have to do what i need to do. ignoring him with be the best or talk to the guy to sort things out with him. it would be better than just letting him do that. i think you should be able to talk to him about it and do what is best for you. he can be jealous about you or there is a misunderstand. you will never know but i think the best way is to find out why he is doing that. don't you think so? you will be able to deal with the problem properly and you would know why.
2007-03-11 21:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Candee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your on question. "the "kid" is sort of fat and is ugly"- People who have a negative self image of themselves try and put people down so that they can feel good about themelves.
You shouldn't care but make a statement similar to this...if I say something about your weight, I'll get in trouble.
Thats not being mean but you're going to make him think twice about calling you gay.
BTW - I'm a plus size women. I know how to back people up off of me.
2007-03-11 21:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are handling it very well. But to answer your question, there ARE times we should care what other people say... it is called "Defamation of character" and you should stop it when possible. As for this little fart that keeps calling you names... I would quietly go to him and tell him, that your sexual preference is none of his business and that if he doesn't stop, you will report him. He has found a "weak" spot and is going to bully you every freakin' day... so stand up to him, tell him it doesn't matter if you are gay or not... and turn and walk away.
2007-03-11 21:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah well its pretty smart not to start anything. honestly i'd punch the guy but thats definitely not a good idea. you should ignore really, because if your not gay, your not gay and its probably not affecting your social life either so dont worry about it.
2007-03-11 20:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a cowardly form of bullying Report it to your teacher if it continues If you can't just ignore him walk away or fight him if you have to but only as a last resort away from school of course ask your brother
2007-03-11 21:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a trained Psychiatrist.
From what you describe, I have a pretty good idea that what you are suffering from is Schizophrenia and possibly Bipolar II.
How long have you thought that people are "out to get you"?
You have a chemical imbalance that needs to be corrected. You have elevated seratonin and dopamine levels. That is what is making you act this way.
You need to see a psychiatrist immediatly. Ask him to put you on Respiridone and Lithium.
Once you are properly diagnosed you need to inform the motor vehicle branch and let them know that you are potentialy a dangerous driver because of a mental illness.
Trust me... I have been doing this for 25 years. I know schizophrenia when I see schizophrenia and I am sorry to say.... you have it!
2007-03-11 21:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Keep the focus on yourself. This loser needs a lot of pro help way beyond anything you can do to change this creep.
2007-03-11 21:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you could do is just ignore them but Ive heard you tried that.you could ask him to be your Friend but!if he says no dint worry about it I'm sure they will stop calling you names and stop annoying you!good luck and I'm sorry if my advise does not help you at all.but good luck!
2007-03-11 21:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by alyssa k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋