what can you recommend to the parents on how to deal with teenage rebellion?

Question

pls healp me. it is neccessary to know how to deal with teenage rebellion.

Answer 1

Rebellion can take many forms, from normal emotional swings and challangeing authority, to drugs, sex and staying out all night. Each form of rebellion will take a different form of intervention.

But if you want overall advice it is TIME. You have to give teenagers your time, not excuses on why you are too busy. Though this may not be you, many parents with the seriously rebellious teenagers only have time to yell and then run back to there TV or internet and ignore the teen and never follow through with dicipline.

I skipped school once, as a teen. The next day my dad took the day off work and followed me to everyone of my classes. You better believe I never cut school again I was too embarassed. I never did drugs because I was always kept busy and my parents always knew where I was. From a young age I was always expected to let my parents know where I was and I only went out in groups. And I have done the same with my kids. None of this, hand your child a cell phone and "check on them" now and then. No my kids spend most of there time at home and in activities (IE sports or classes) They spend time with friends but only when I know there parents and that they have strong values. But my kids don't resent this because it is just how it has always been. My kids know what I expect and they do what I ask of them.

Now lets be clear they are not always happy about it. All teenagers will run off to their room and get angry. But the difference between a normal teen and a serious problem is can you trust them to do as you ask 99% of the time, even if they don't like it.

You want to help your child first thing is have dinner time every night from as early as possible and turn off the TV and computer during dinner, and make it clear dinner is not optional. And then sign them up for organized activities and take them there or better yet coach. If you can't afford formal sports or activities than organize them yourself. Have your teen invite some friends to the park too organize a mini league. You can be the ref. Just be there. At first they may be annoyed but in time they will get used to it.

Answer 2

hhhmmmmm! good question, i say pray about it and use a lot of patience.Teenagers have been rebelling since the dawn of time. The transition between child and adult can be a difficult to navigate. Teenage rebellion is simply our children reminding us of that. But why do they have to push so hard? And why are some kids considerably more rebellious than others? There's usually a reason for everything. Hopefully this page will give you some of the answers.
Why do teenagers rebel?

As a child we quickly establish our limitations, our boundaries and our points of authority i.e. Our parents. Our teenage years mark the onset of adulthood and so all these things begin to change. The old rules have gone and we have to learn the new ones ourselves. The only way we do this is by pushing and frequently crossing the boundaries of behavior. This obviously creates problem with the people around us and in particular our parents.

How to deal with teenage rebellion?

The most important thing you should do is avoid confrontation. This will only escalate the situation and possibly lengthen the period of rebellion. You have to remain firm but at the same time leave them plenty room for maneuver. Of course avoiding confrontation isn't easy and that's where the second most important aspect comes in - patience. If you lose your temper you have effectively lost the battle. You have to try to get your point over without provoking an argument no matter how hard they are trying to cause one. And finally, remember to treat them like a young adult and not a old child. Respect them like a peer even if they aren't acting like one.


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How long will it last for?

This depends greatly upon how well you deal with the previous question. If you fight fire with fire you will probably draw out the rebellion phase far more than is would've been. The longer it does go on the more chance it has to cause lasting damage to your relationship. If you remain patient most teenagers will pass through their rebellion in a year, sometimes less. Of course, it also depends on many other factors such as the quality of the child's home and social lives and their experiences at school.

The Final Thought

Before you get stressed about your teenage son/daughter's supposed rebellion ask yourself are they actually doing any harm. Is the style of their clothes really that bad? Will anyone really be offended? Remember, society isn't the same as when you were a child. The rules constantly change and as a parent your levels of acceptability should change with them. However, often teenage rebellion does need to be dealt with because it does effect you and others. But as long as you're patient and don't create World War iII on a nightly basis, this unfortunate phase will be over before you know it.

hope this helps!

Answer 3

Theres no need to worry. That just makes everything look harder. But before you can sit back and relax make sure all the wrong ways are blocked for them. Tell them about the limits you have in consideration. Give them time to think and talk to them and give them advice only when they are willing to listen. Help them to look to the real side of the world and be more realistic with choices. We shouldn't look at teenagers as the problem ones. We all should know that anyone at any age can prove their might and courage. Teenagers who have chosen the right path are actually more outstanding than others.

Answer 4

I went through a stage with my Mom where it seemed like I was being stifled. That I was never going to go anywhere in life and that I was still going to be living at home when I was 45.
My mom didn't change anything. She was (and still is with my younger siblings) very strict, and I didn't understand. I was a fairly easy child (I think) in that if something bothered me, I usually just tried to get over it. But there were times when she would see a problem and take me aside and harass me about it until I opened up. It would usually take her about 3 or 4 hours to get me to tell her what the real problem was, but that was what it took for me to know that she was really listening and was gonna try to help. Communicate!!! Take your kid aside and tell them that you want their life to be smart and that's why you do certain things. They won't always like it. Sorry, if you care for them, that is what it takes.
Eventually, I started seeing areas in the past where I would have made a stupid choice and was saved by my mom. Nothing dangerous per-se, but stuff that would have hurt me psychologically. I got wiser.
I outgrew my fear of impending old-maid-ism and I was fine.
There were still things that I wanted to do that she wouldn't let me and that really frustrated me, but I finally figured out that she wasn't trying to torture me, she just cared.
Tough love!

Answer 5

Make sure that you set rules and follow through with punishments with the teen, keep communication open with the teen, and don't be afraid to put your foot down. But, also keep in mind that your teen is growing up and you can't be hovering over their shoulder 24/7 - you have to let them go out and what not. Just don't be afraid to step in if you notice them going down a path that is destructive.

Answer 6

Its a time for them to figure out who they are going to be for the rest of there life. Allow them there space and just be a watchful and loving parent. Intervene if they engage in dangerous activities and encourage them to grow. Just remember you are there parent and not there buddy your job is to raise them and see that they grow up as a respectful and functioning member of society.

Answer 7

family counseling with a licensed psychotherapist, and also, individual anxiety and behavioral evaluations for all family members and the results made available to the therapist.

Answer 8

Well whats the nature of rebellion?

Not cleaning up her room?

Stealing your stuff to buy crack which she is smoking in her room.

There is rebellion, and there is REBELLION.