He loves me for over two months but he is married person I don't want to hurt his wife what should I do?
2007-03-11 13:38:21 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The key word in that is he is married. You said he can't leave his wife but it is more like he won't. Move on. I am sure you can find someone who is available.
2007-03-11 13:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by TLC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are headed down a road where only you will be hurt. One day he will come to you and say "I know I told you I loved you but my wife and I have too much history together so I cannot leaver her". And he will be gone.
May not happen for quite a while or may happen soon it all depends on when he gets tired of living a double life.
Anyone who is going with a person who is married is asking to be hurt. If he truly loved you and wanted to spend the rest of his life with you he would be fileing for divorce very soon.
My guess is there will always be an excuse why he can't do that.
For your sake I do hope you move on. Find a man that is not attached and you can have a real love affair then.
2007-03-11 13:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to hurt his wife then dump him and move on with your life so he can be the husband he needs to be for his wife... You dont want to be the other woman trust me! It is not worth it. You will be much better off without him and you need to find someone who is single and available and NOT married to date and get to know. He does not love you the way you think he does because if he did FIRST of all he would not be doing this to his wife and to you... I feel he is just using you for a booty call here and there. Think of it this way... If he would and is doing this to his wife now what will he do to you down the road? Can you really trust a man lilke this? I wouldnt if it were me. Just to let you know that 9 times out of ten a married person will not usually leave their marriage for the other woman or guy in thier life. You will end up being hurt bad if you choose to stay with this loser of a guy.
2007-03-11 13:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm not gonna bash you for falling for a married man or for being a homewreker. We all make mistakes. You both had equal wrong doings and it needs to cease immediately! Think about it, if he'll cheat WITH you, he'll cheat ON you! That's tried and true! If he did leave his wife for you, you'll be in her shoes in a matter of time! Think of how it hurts! What about his kids(if any)? What if YOU got pregnant by him? You say you don't want to hurt his wife, you already have. Just be the mature adult and back away. There is someone out there for you. Its not a married man, either.
This relationship is just a volcano of pain ready to blow. Once crap hits the fan, you'll see how much he 'loves' you.
Make the right chioce. There is no way that you feel right about this in your heart...
2007-03-11 14:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by dance4praise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to hurt his wife you should find a man who is not married. This guy probably isn't going to leave his wife. Why should he? He's got a wife with all those comforts and a lover.
I'm just curious, how do you love someone who could do that to his wife?
2007-03-11 13:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for u to do is leave him alone!!. Believe me when I tell you. A married man is off limits.. Put urself in his wifes shoes.. What would u feel if you found out that ur husband was in love with another woman and that you may not be the only one. ...Distance yourself from him as much as u can and try to focus on someone else.. Its not a safe situation.
2007-03-11 14:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Two months isn't love, it's lust.
2. He probably won't leave his wife.
3. What goes around comes around. Someday you may find someone you truly love, a cheap tart may not care that he is in a committed relationship and have an affair with him.
4. You have no right to lust after another woman's husband.
5. Grow up.
6. Find your own man.
2007-03-11 13:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him alone!!! No one should ever come between a husband and wife, they are a family and have commited to each other. If you two are meant to be together then it will happen when it is right. If he doesn't want to be with his wife then he has to finish that relationship first before he can be commited to you. What kind of man would do that to someone he loves, and is that really the kind of man you want to be with?
2007-03-11 13:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by mistyboo143 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you don't want to hut his wife,too bad he doesn't feel the same way. If he is cheating on someone he promised to love and is married to her,what in the world makes you think that he wouldn;t do the same to you,given the chance.find yourself a nice single guy who will love you for more than two months and doesn't have to worry about hurting anyone,including YOU
2007-03-11 13:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by happyfingers1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. Married men almost never leave their wives. And they are full of lines to make you think that they are trapped in the marriage. Some common ones:
"My wife is mean to me and psycho and she'll kill me if I leave her."
"My wife won't let me see the kids if I leave her."
"My wife is sick, I can't leave her until she gets better."
"My wife will commit suicide if I leave her."
I watched friend after friend in high school and college fall for married guys and their stupid lines. Don't waste your time on this guy. Plus you know this is wrong. Move on. Better to hurt a little bit now than to waste time waiting months or even years on some guy who won't ever leave his wife.
2007-03-11 13:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by nimo22 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋