my hubby and I really need counseling. He is resistant, but made the phone call for an appointment. Just wondering if anyone felt like it really saved their marriage.
2007-03-11 13:16:25 · 10 answers · asked by MrsMaltz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It really helped me. It made me realize that my (ex) husband and I had nothing in common left except for the kids.
If you go to counseling with an open mind you may find out some things that will surprise you. I hope it works out for you.
2007-03-11 13:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said how old your daughter is or how many children you have by this previous marriage. When did the father move in? Was it after you and your husband married or was the father living with the son when you came along? From what you stated your father in law said about having a good thing going before you and the kids came along, I assume he was. Therefore, if that is the situation and you knew when you married him that you would be living with the son and the father, then I don't think you have a complaint, if your husband has accepted your children from a previous marriage, you should be able to accept his father because if it were not for him you would not have a husband. I am assuming your husband takes his father to work to get him out of your hair for a while. Don't be jealous of a parent, because 20 years from now you may be facing a bigger threat when the Dad is dead and gone, especially if he holds any resentment toward you for making him choose between you and his Dad.
2016-03-29 00:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We found Christian counseling to be very beneficial. Not saying you should go to a Christian counselor, but I highly suggest a faith based counselor. They won't fill your brains up with garbage and they won't teach you to point fingers. Marriage counseling does not work unless you are both willing to be honest, share your feelings, and to aknowledge that changes need to be made on your side, not just your spouse's. A marriage can easily be saved by putting your spouse's needs ahead of your own. It's worked great for me! Email me if ya need to talk! Good luck!
2007-03-11 13:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and my parents' marriage was really falling apart since the start. My mom booked this marriage counselor even though my dad didn't even wanna go. Thing is, they went quite a few times and my dad got tired so he stopped going but things actually got better. They're more loving and get along better than before, so yeah I believe you can benefit from it.
Hope that helped!
2007-03-11 13:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can, but you both need to open up honestly, for it to work!
It helped us and we almost got a divorce for adultery 15 years ago.
Good Luck
2007-03-11 13:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The counselor probably has a summer home from it
2007-03-11 13:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you both have to be receptive to it/truthful to what the problems are. Find someone who doesn't want you to blame all your problems on your parents.
2007-03-11 13:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mary G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, deffinetly.
2007-03-11 13:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
none
when you have to go to counseling, it's over
2007-03-11 13:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It definately helped us!!
2007-03-11 13:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋