I have a boyfriend who I love so much. We've been together for a year now. We used to go to the same school but he moved in a different city 7 months ago. I know that he cares about me and he loves me alot but why is it that sometimes when we dont talk on the phone or see eachother I feel like all that is just a make believe and that he probably talking to another girl and I get mad and i start thinking about negative stuff like what if he cheats on me, but when im talking to him and he reminds me how much he loves me which he always do when we talk on the phone...then I cry and I felt bad because I know he loves me but I just cant stop worrying that one day he'll just lie to me and cheat. My last boyfriend cheated on me and maybe thats was the reason i assume things too much. Do any of you felt this way before?? Or is it just me?
2007-03-11 13:02:09 · 8 answers · asked by honeyy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its because u love him so much and know he loves u but u are wondering if he loves u as much as u love him. I went through this phase and it was hell... I cried too much and felt alot of guilt after assuming things and then found out they were wrong. But i got over it an u will too
2007-03-11 13:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be cruel, but if you were dating and really into one another, why did he move? It sounds like what you are picking up on (and that people are calling insecurity) is that you are not the most important thing in each other's lives. Just because you are not top priority does not mean he's cheating on you. You either need to chill out and realize you're only dating or confront him and ask where the relationship is going. People can love each other and not have the same ideas about what a relationship should be. Love is only a feeling; you're stressing over a situation or reality.
2007-03-11 20:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by skip_pingstone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your feelings and thoughts that your new boyfriend will cheat on you is all manifested by your old boyfriend. Second,don't ever act jealous or accuse him of cheating because that can tear a relationship apart. Long distance relationships are a hard thing to do. If it's meant to be,he won't cheat on you if he really loves you,so don't worry about it.
2007-03-11 21:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by tjoe1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is hard on anyone. Especially on someone who has been betrayed in the past. I hope that you two will be able to be back together soon.
2007-03-11 20:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is all abt trust, faith and tolerance. Learn to acquire all this skills no matter what unpleasant experience u had.
Cos without this is like plants without sunlight, it will nvr grow fruitfully!
2007-03-11 22:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by RenRen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about insecurity. You will carry on like this even if you marry the guy later and drive him away
2007-03-11 20:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just means that you are insecure.......if you really believe that he loves you then don't stress about it, just because your last boyfriend cheated on you doesn't mean he will
2007-03-11 20:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It;s just you. Plus, I've never dated a boy, but I know how they are, being one myself at one time.
2007-03-11 20:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋