please help me....?

Question

i hate myself so much. i just got back from an overnight retreat, and as always im so left out....i suck at conversations, even giving a simple answer...i admit that i have low self esteem...im extremely shy person. it just annoys me that im the one noticed being quiet while some others in the room are too....i wonder what aura i exude..im so dislikable...i was so sad not to get along with the outgoing people....im always left out, and they probably think im psychotc or a stuck up...i want to overcome my shyness and not be insecure around outgoing ppl...this has been a constant problem, and i worry about saying hi to them coz they may think im weird to do such...why do i think like this?! will taking antidepressants help me lose my inhibitions. do they have to be prescribed??? im desperate..i want to be successful, but how can i if im shy?

im able to make friends with certain people, but not with everyone...

Answer 1

Please go see a psychologist. I think you need to change the way you think and learn to love yourself first. Once you do that others will love you too. I'm sure you have a lot of great qualities that you are choosing to ignore.
You might want to give psychotherapy a shot before trying anti-depressants. They may end up referring you to a psychiatrist, but you may not need it.
Good luck

Answer 2

Oh, to be shy again! After years of being shy, I saw a therapist, a psychiatrist, was placed on medication for depression and anxiety, and now have so much self confidence, people don't want to be around me. I am now labeled a "snob" and a "know-it-all".

Extreme shyness is something you can address by placing yourself with people who you feel will not judge you. Consider volunteering at your local library as a reader in a Child's Story Hour. Four, five, and six-year olds will be thrilled to have your attention, they will not recognize your shyness, and will adore you.

After you have spent some time with the children in the library, perhaps you might consider applying for a position as an aide at a local elementary school. There are many children there who need someone who can sympathize and provide some empathy with their own shyness.

Families are so busy today, they sometimes don't realize their own children have feelings of inadequacy, a feeling of not belonging, hating themselves and others around them. There is your challenge. Try to help another.

Answer 3

It will be alright , Just get yourself to the nearest Trekkie convention and be with your people. The sense of community will benifit you in other areas as well