I always want to be loved and always get attention from friends?

Question

I always want to be shown some love from the other sex and hear kind words from my friends even when im with a girl i will get infatuated very easy.. then when im shown love etc sometimes i will get bored.. duno why maybe cauze i had family probs when i was young but this thing really confuses me i even dnt blv alot in myself i know im good at many things but i think i dnt have the key to sucess and when i try to set a goal i always fail it could all this be because i never heard kind words from my father and he always discarouged me ?

Answer 1

You've hit it on the head. You're seeking acceptance, appreciation and validation that you're a good person by fishing for compliments, or trying to get people to constantly shower you with attention..

Sounds like you might need therapy (to really talk it out), but recognizing the problem is a good place to start. You just have to realize that everyone at one point or another has experienced insecurity, loneliness and failure. You aren't alone, and you're a good person, even if your dad tells you otherwise.

Answer 2

Dude firstly to seek acceptance, love and respect it has to come from yourself. You need to have confidence in yourself and believe in yourself dude. You gotta build that up & you'll find that'll it make you feel awhole lot better and lighter.
So... find something that you feel you've accomplished well in & build your confidence & strength on that.
Then slowly move on2 getting out there. Yknw go out with friends.... have fun.
Find a new hobby like maybe aerobics or... painting & elaborate on that & build on your interests.
The key to success is knowing that your good at something even if its something small like.... meeting deadlines at work or cooking a decent meal those count.
You need to accept yourself for who you are and not what you could be.
Learn to respect and love yourself more. No harm in complimenting yourself yknw? Like saying wow I did a great job on today's assignment or.. wow I should do that more often it makes me feel good about myself
I hope this makes sense to you in some way.
The best way to get feelings out is to write it down and put into poetry, there is no perfect or professional way 2 write poetry cause poetry comes from the heart. I write poetry myself and it releases alot of tension for me and I feel awhole lot lighter then I was b4
But yeah just try those things I said and it may help you.

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Take care