I think about this a lot. Sure it is if we behave good and help them. But what is true help? It does not help a person if we take away all hardship from them, as is not sometimes just the hardship the greatest teacher?
What deed, attitude, gift etc. would make you really happy from another person?
2007-03-11 12:34:08 · 11 answers · asked by I love you too! 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Some people are in great relationships, have lots of money, have lovely kids and still they feel not happy. From this I resulted that true happiness must come from something else.
How can we contribute to that?
2007-03-11 12:46:46 · update #1
If happiness is a state of mind coming from within, can we assist others to find it within?
And where within should they look for?
2007-03-11 13:36:37 · update #2
There are so many ways we can contribute to another persons happiness. Often, we can do this best with strangers! A smile, a compliment, chatting with an elderly person in a store who seems lonely, complimenting someone on a job well done, (& even calling their boss to let them know how courteous & professional they were). Let me count the ways! I totally agee with you about taking "away all hardship" since sometimes that's the worst thing you could do, & I believe it falls into being an "enabler." At the same time, it takes "selectivity"--that is, if you can help somone who is trying as hard as they can, by giving them a little "boost" it can mean all the difference in the world. It depends. For me, for personal relationships, I pretty much evaluate the "mutuality." Not tit-for-tat, but they need to make you happy, too. If the upside doesn't equal the downside of someone, there's no point in blowing in the wind. What would make me "happy?" What I hope I do with others. Tolerate my eccentricities (we all have them!); not be critical or judgmental, respect me even if we don't always agree, be sensitive to my "moods" & let me be when I need space, share as much as possible, remember little things that please me (a cinnamon stick in my coffee if they're making it!), if something needs to be done that I can't handle, be aware & do it without my asking, because I will NEVER ask.
Don't EVER get in a temper; I can't handle tempers. Be my FRIEND. Those are the best "gifts." Be gentle with my cat! This was a sweet question, & I suspect you're a "sweet" person. Sorry I'm so long of tooth. But what do you expect from dragons?
2007-03-11 16:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We all need to do unto others as we would have them do unto us. Have you ever had someone be rude to you in the morning? It can ruin your whole day. In the same vein, when someone is kind and polite to us, or pays us a genuine compliment, we feel better all day. Doesn't cost a thing to be nice. If more people would be considerate of others, it would be a much more pleasant world in which to live. Husbands need to do nice things for their wives, and wives should reciprocate.
We have to learn to like ourselves first to be truly happy. If you expect someone else to come along and make you happy, you'll never know it. Women need to know that the prince on the white charger doesn't exist. Men need to realize that love must be nourished if it is to continue to grow.
Hardship can be a great teacher if we are able to survive it and learn from it. Children should not be handed everything they ask for. They need to learn what it feels like to earn something.
I'm ranting, so I'll hush.
2007-03-11 13:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a state of mind. It must come from within. Happiness cannot be found externally.
2007-03-11 13:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me happiness is when you can embrace the truest version of yourself, good and ugly, and be able to take yourself lightly. To be able to except human selfishness and your own and the most important, practice compassion.with yourself and others.
I think sharing this thought with others is the most you can do. (it's hard to try not to sound as if you're preaching)
2007-03-11 13:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Through service, compassion, loyalty, and that example should teach them to do the same, once done their happiness will be assured as they integrate those ideals into their life.
I hope that helps
2007-03-11 13:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Matticus Kole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prayer.
2007-03-11 14:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I need is to be around people who are good for me not people who do things for me. There are only two kinds of friends, those who are good for you and those who aren't. By good for me I mean good for me emotionally.
2007-03-11 12:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by tim b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
random acts of kindness, be nice to someone jsut becuz for no reason
2007-03-11 13:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by cav 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i thought you would never ask and i have some ideas on how you can make me happy
2007-03-11 12:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you do this? why help another?
you are born into this world and you go to your grave ALONE. and while you live life you cannot experience something other then your subjective reality. so what is the point of ehlping anybody other than yourself?
2007-03-11 12:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋