I'm attracted to this guy I used to work with.,,,I've basically got a crush on him. I still stay in touch with him, but I find myself thinking of him alot. He's good looking, nice hair, slim waist, and hopefully nice down below. I'm pretty sure that he's bi-curious (yeah I'm a dude), but I don't want to spoil a friendship. I don't know if he's ready to cross over yet. How can I approach this??? I'm not sure I'll be happy until I'm with him intimately.
2007-03-11 12:34:02 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dude...you can only do the obvious. Call him, ask him to meet for coffee, beer, lunch, whatever. Then tell him you're attracted to him. His response will tell you much more than we can.
2007-03-11 12:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Concentrate on your body language, that other people are picking up signals from. If you seem closed, intimidating etc. some people will be less positive about approaching you. Think about how you could appear more open/inviting and you should increase your luck. Smiling opens you up to others too. And keep negative thoughts out of your mind, whilst you're out and about - these will influence what happens. Otherwise, choose the best places to meet guys that you like. Circulating in a straight world, and looking seemingly 'straight', others won't pick up on you as a potential mate. I have had this issue, but am not gonna go 'more gay', in the eyes of the straight world, just to stand out like a billboard. Research gay places, whether bars, clubs etc. Although the bar/club scene is often more about pick-ups (I assume you're looking more for a partner). I'd also consider interest groups - sports, walking etc. These could help increase your circle of gay friends. You may also need to travel around Texas (or elsewhere - California etc), if you're in a place where gay men are thin on the ground. The metro areas have reasonably sized groups. Although I visit Texas a few times a year I don't live there, so am not a Texas expert. Another thought is to keep your sarcastic streak somewhat hidden, until you get to know someone better - sarcasm can be cutting and off-putting to some. Good luck! Rob
2016-03-29 00:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still in contact with him, make an excuse to stop by and even suggest going to lunch or dinner as friends to talk about stuff. Have some alcohol and do the drunk guy coming on to your buddy thing and see how he reacts.
2007-03-11 12:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are intent on bringing this to his attention, then you might as well just come right out and tell him.
Be aware however, that his reaction may be quite the opposite of what you are hoping. Weigh the pros and cons of coming out to him versus keeping him as a long standing friend.
2007-03-11 12:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only decent way is to put your cards on the table "I'm gay, I think I might be attracted to you" and see what happens.
2007-03-11 12:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to sleep over, if he says yes then hes ok about it. If no then at least you know hes not interested.
Good luck, take care, David :)xxx
2007-03-11 12:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just say watsup play with his hands minally and say watsup dude and give him a longgggg hug where he knows but he dosent know or get him on the phone and say I know your not gay but have you ever thought about exsperimenting with a guy.
2007-03-11 13:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by itsthebeesknees123 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
go slow
2007-03-11 13:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋