This question is for the ladies that are in long term relationships. Have you settled for a man who doesn't do the romantic things he once did? To clarify my question let me ask specific questions:
1) When was the last time 'he' kissed the back of your hand?
2) When was the last time you slow-danced with 'him'?
3) When was the last time 'he' did any romantic spontaneous gesture for you? ie; cupped your face in his hands, looked deep into your eyes, kissed the nape of your neck...
4) When was the last time you felt the 'love' in your relationship?
The reason I asked, is because my relationship has become monotonous, routine, a bore. I do all that is femininely possible to keep it going, but I'm not solely responsible for maintaining upkeep of 'our' relationship. After almost 2 decades I'm ready to throw in the towel. There are no other guys involved & I don't suspect him of having anyone else, but I figure, if I'm just going to go through the motions, I can do THAT alone.
2007-03-11 12:31:38 · 8 answers · asked by beenabytch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he isn't AS romantic as he was when we first met, but after 6 years what can u expect!?
1. he kissed my hand yesterday
2. we slow danced in my room about 2 weeks ago when i was feeling down
3. he gave me a massage last night, and kissed my neck and we just laid in bed talking.
4. every day, all throughout!! we keep it strong!
Talk to him about sparking it up a little- start doing things together you don't normally do. Go salsa dancing even if you don't know how, read him a stupid, funny story, ask for his opnions on things... communicate!! laugh together, touch often, and always keep it fun! even if you can't get that romantic spark going again, if you at least get laughing and having fun, it will invite those loving feelings to come back in him and it will just get better!!! Good Luck and email me anytime!
2007-03-13 10:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Friday (he works out of town
2. We are not the dancing type.
3. Friday
4. right now.
You have hit a very common rut in the world of marriage. I've been married for 22 going on 23 and I hit it once. I just let it pass as all things pass one way or the other.
The magic in marriage is how you put it there. Did you know that your being in the same room with him and be a romantic gesture. Saying good morning when he wakes up is a romantic gestute. Passing each other in the hall and saying hello is a romantic gesture. The little things are always forgotten. What I am saying is don't wait for him you do something no matter how small.
2007-03-11 21:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. yesterday
2. 3 weeks ago
3.about an hour ago he kissed me on the forehead and said 'you know i love you dont you?'
4. i felt it right after no. 3
but weve only been together 2 years so give him time he'll be the same as the rest
talk to him about how u feel and u might find that he makes more effort if he realises how close u are to giving up
good luck hope it works out for ya
2007-03-11 19:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel?
Sometimes when couples get very comfortable with each other, they don't do things that 'romantic' any more.
I know that even though I don't get flowers, or wild nights or anything I used to in the beginning when he was trying to establish a relationship with me..
The fact that he takes care of me, asks me if I need anything throughout the day, and worries about me, is enough romance for me. He also tells me he loves me all the time, and he shows it. And I wouldn't have it any other way...
Maybe you can suggest to him about going out on a date. Dressing up, going to a nice restaurant, or just heading out on your own to the zoo or some place nice, to sit, talk, have coffee and reconnect as a couple.
Or even surprising him with little notes like: I really love you, have a great day. Usually cheers most guys up.. and kicks them in their romantic butt.
Also, thanking him for doing dishes, cooking for you, taking out garbage.. all the little things, makes him want to do them more. (It works!)
2007-03-11 19:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Fabulously Broke in the City 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl u can always talk 2 him by tellin him that the romance is gone belive me dont throw in the towel in ur relationship belive me is not worth it i mean i have been single 4 a 1yr n it sucks i dont belive that love is real n belive that all men are liars n that they r jus bad n i became afraid 2 get involved in a relationship n let alone date a man plz dont let that love go not jus yet
2007-03-11 19:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Theres no use in throwing in the towel if you dont discuss it with him
2007-03-11 19:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look sweetie... that is a hard one .. Love is in the eyes of the beholder... Sometimes or maybe what works for you, don't work for him...maybe..
2007-03-11 21:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kaykee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is alive & well in all the romance novels I read.
2007-03-11 19:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋