Why is he saying this?

Question

met a guy who is 27 on the internet. Eharmoney was the site we met off of. Turns out we live really close to each other, almost in the same neighboorhood. When we first met, we exchanged emails for a couple weeks, and then we talked on the phone. The first conversation we had was over 8 hours long.
We talked every day for a week, and then we met up in a public place. We talked for hours together and went back to his place and made out with no sex. He told me that he really liked me, and I said I liked him too. He kept asking me what I thought about him so then I said I like you but your arms arent big enough and I usually like bigger arms.
Then we made plans to meet up a few days later, and we kept talking on the phone every day. We met up again and had a good time, and he said he was pissed about the comment I made about his arms, so I apologized and said I was sorry.
Then we talked a couple more times on the phone, but then he stopped calling that next week. I called him a couple of days after I had not heard from him and I asked him why he hadn't been calling me, and he said he changed his mind and made a 180 degree turn the past few days. He said he wasn't attracted to me, and he didn't see how I could have said that about his arms and then turned around and been all nice and changed my mind and apologized. He said he thought that was wierd, and that he had noticed things about me that he found unattractive. I hung up on him.

Then 2 months later, I called him up because I really liked him and I felt really badly about saying what I said, and after talking to friends I realized I hurt his ego. So I called him and he was really happy to hear from me, and then he invited me over. So I went over and we made out again but didn't have sex. So then we talked a couple of more times on the phone after that, and he told me again that he wasn't attracted to me and did I have a friend I could hook him up with that looked more like what he was looking for? I give up. Who was the bad guy, who was mean in this situation?

Answer 1

He was. A guy shouldn't worry too much about what physical features he has. He should have focused on whether you fut together. It sounds like he just wanted to get back at you when he made his comment about you hooking him up with a friend. My goodness what a ridiculous thing to ask! Move on to someone more sure of themselves.