How do you rate the performance of your parents as parents?

Question

10. Outstanding: Emotionally very healthy, trustworthy & close; great educational concept; lots of time and resources given to education.
9. Great: Totally dependable, stable, always available & helpful.
8. Good human being(s): Trying hard.
7. Successful: Bringing up the kid well.
6. Trying: Good intention always around.
5. Incompetent: … though somehow well-meaning.
4. Negligent: Not supplying essential needs.
3. Sad: Dangerously negligent.
2. Bad: Not sane, sometimes scary.
1. Dark: Intentionally hurtful.
0. Cruel: Criminal abuse.

Rate father and mother separately, if you want. You can also rate them different for different periods or other siblings. Also I’d be interested in the ratings of step-parents, if you have any. All details are welcome, esp if you feel that the cultural group or so might be a factor in their performance.

Answer 1

I don't know how to answer this one. My mother didn't like me at all, but never told me, yet she would say awful and do awful things behind my back (once my cousin was arranging for me to go on a blind date with this guy who was a virgin, I was too) before my mom agreed to let me go, my cousin literally had to make a deal with her that she would take full responsibilty when, not if, when I jumped his bones. Mom knew I was a virgin because she hypothetically chained me to the house; meanwhile she allowed my younger sister to date when she was 11 going on 12, when she was 11 going on 12 she had a 16 yr-old boyfriend (we're 2 yrs and 11 months apart) when she was 12 she had a 17 yr old boyfriend. My cousin told me this years later.
Now for my father. He didn't have the wherewithal to tell me he wanted me to find a different place to live; he rather used a sad situation to his advantage and put me in the funny bin. I was an adult and had he told me properly I would have got a place to live.
Years passed and his wife said it all. "We're moving to Arizona and you will never see or hear from us again." Years later I found out that my brother, whom I believed did not know this, already knew where they lived and they had been writing to him all along.
So, you see my answer would not fit any of your catagories.
I had one person tell me this, "This will be the first time and it will also be that last that I ever tell anyone this; stay the hell away from your family!" Not a normal thing to say to anyone and she was the only person (have no idea how I did it) I ever told everything to; on the whole I don't talk about my family..

Answer 2

I don't know how to rate my parents on your scale.

At age 60 I have had and continue to have a good life. A 31+ year happy marriage, a child and grand child who are a joy, personal, social and financial sucess and every other indication I can think of that should indicate they did a good job.

On the other hand there is no doubt that they were neglectful, often harsh and always unsupportive, and in the case of my father, utterly uncommunicative and sometimes physically abusive.

Answer 3

Mother: From ages of about 2-8 (me)- 5-4
From ages 9-12- 6
From ages 12- present (19yrs old)- 9

Father: From ages of about 2-10- 5-4
From ages 11-15- 6
Age 16- 7-8
Father deceased at age 16

I think they did great with what they had, here I am in college straight A's and In a healthy longterm commited relationship... not too shabby if I say so myself.

Answer 4

I would say 5.5 My mother was always around but I would say that she was really not interested. When I was a pre-teen age child she was far too depressed about living in another state away from the rest of our family due to a job transfer. So she was there but so absorbed in her own problems she really wasn't very interested in me. As I got older she became less interested, I got good grades in school, stayed out of trouble, so she wasn't very involved. Through out my twenties she was not much different. I worked and put myself into school and she worked and found little projects to do that kept her busy. As a grandparent she is much better. Though she spoils my daughter, and refuses to stop, she still has great intentions and tries much harder with her than she ever did with me.

Answer 5

I don't think I could ever rate my parents in terms of a one to ten scale. Parenting is so complex that just saying a parent is something out of 10 will not give an accurate description of how well a parent raises a child. A better idea would be to subjectively rate parents and give their pros and cons, and focus on details. I personally don't want to rate my parents, I just wanted to give a suggestion.

Answer 6

I supply him 6 out of 10, yeah, hes solid in some factor of his management yet nonetheless no longer adequate in remodeling our united states of america to its complete ability as a bigger united states of america. we want a frontrunner that has the full administration of each little thing in an upright way for the welfare of everybody and a solid determination maker. Now, if i'm going to obtain a time to speak with him, i'm going to ask him to enable me force his Porche.