I need to get out , i am scared have no job need someones advice he is also a drunk,
2007-03-11 11:31:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well...verbaly abusive is like the same thing as emotionally abusive...u need to sit down and talk to him. if he wants to ignore u...then u tell him u will be leaving for while...and that when hes ready to act like an adult and to quit his drinking...u will come back...but if not...he will be there all alone. u dont desreve what hes giving u! u need to show him that ur better than the way hes treating u. that u need some respect...and love...and some security fromhim.u need to know that he loves u...tell him that u dont know if he loves u anymore. he doesnt act like.
leave for a while and come back...he should see that u didnt marry a man for him to be drunk and sink down to a boy...that u wanna come home to the man u married. ...
r u the one without a job? or him? idk what u mean...but if its u...then leave and stay with a family memebr or go stay with a friend while looking for a job....if its ur husband....then uve gotta show him...to get his act together cuz he needs to be able to stand straight by himself...with or without you.
2007-03-11 11:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Teenager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to be the one to leave in this situation... Stay with family or a friend of yours and you need to find work and save some money until you can get a place of your own... Also go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this situation if need be. You also need to seek counseling for all of this as well... Good luck to you and here comes lots of hugs your way today.... I am here if you need to talk as well. There also are local abuse shelters for battered and abused women... Also call your local police station and see if there is any help for you in this matter... I really do not know how much they can do at this point if he is not physically abusing you though. I wish i could be of more help here and I sure hope you can get out and get the help you need soon... I really feel your pain. My heart goes out to you. I give you alot of credit for wanting out of this situation and that you are reaching out for help... This says alot for you and I am proud of you... Keep your chin up and be positive and do what you need to do to get the help you need and to get out.
2007-03-11 12:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he knocked out call the cops even if u love him!Its the best for u and him!Stay wit a family mmember until u get back on ur feet!And stay safe by getting a watch dog and or restaining order!Also start a program to help women like ur self if u can!
And dont ever let a man take over life like that again!
2007-03-11 11:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by .-Lissa` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, he will not leave the house unless it is only yours and doesnt have his name on the ownership papers or leasing papers. YOU have to leave the house and simply do it when he is out of the house or in the middle of the night and leave a note and NO number because you have his number and YOU can call him anytime that you want. as for people to stay, go to your parents, cousins, sisters or brothers, uncles or aunts, grandma or grampa, or a friends house. and if you dont like any of the people that i have listed then find a cheap motel, get a job and then find a cute little apartment.
2007-03-11 11:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get on the phone safely you need to call a battered women's hot line. I'm serious. They will talk with you and come up with a plan that will get you out of this situation as safely as possible. It doesn't matter if you have a job or not. please call them as soon as you can. Staying in this situation can not only drive you crazy it can get you killed. You don't need to live like this and you have a great future ahead of you. You had the courage to write this question you can definitely get out safely. Please call as soon as you can. He will never change! I know this to be true! My prayers and thoughts are with you.
2007-03-11 11:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are shelters for abused woman . Go to one and get a restraining order against him . then go back home or the shelter will help you find a place . You deserve better .
2007-03-11 11:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by darsow@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many womens shelters that you can go to. They will help you get on your feet with a job and home. Don't stay another day with this man. Good luck....
2007-03-11 11:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your police dept and ask to be taken to a womans shelter.
They can help you with a place to stay and advice on getting work.
Good luck
2007-03-11 11:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!!!!!!
Women can divorce men here you know. Get a job, go to school to get a job, you can't not try and expect things to happen. Do something to help yourself.
Especially if you have no kids and and have a family who can help you get back on your feet.
2007-03-11 11:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by morebidd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see an Counselor to guide you in the right why. I am one of the VAW Counselor helping women to leave their abouser. You have go to the agency and see counseor as soon is possible plz
2007-03-11 14:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋