This is very confusing for me, but since i was little i have always been worried about wat people think. It is the little things like inviting freinds to my house or meeting my family etc. It is mainly those 2 things. I hate inviting people to my house because it is not 'finished' yet and i feel that most people have nicer houses than me and that they wont understand why my house is the way it is, especially my close freinds. Where i come from is a very small place and if one thing gets said about someone, within a week everyone finds out. I just feel that everyone else's houses and families are better than mine.. i love to have party's, especially house parties and i want one in my house, especially now that summer is coming, but i am concious about my house, even some of my close freinds that i have known for 3 years have never stepped a foot in my house.. it is that bad! i dont want to be so concious! help!
2007-03-11 11:28:49 · 4 answers · asked by Cheerios17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl I know exactly what you mean, I am mother of two and we live in a quaint cape cod style home. It's cute, but small, and my daughter first bday is coming up and we are having the bday at our house...cue the funeral music..It's a 1 1/2 story house, and the upstairs is unfinished, the whole HOUSE is unfinished..I pulled the wallpaper off to paint the kitchen, and the plaster came with it! We tried to put vinyl titling down and it came over like crap. We took one of our cabinets out of the kitchen to give it some more space, and the flooring came with it. We bought..a money pit....A 1954 money pit. I also have three pitbulls and one of them destroyed my laundry room floor...I'm only 21 so I can't afford to buy a 400,000 house like my mom has. The people I am inviting are my mom's friends and they are in their late 30's with big houses and "the life" After 4 yrs I finally invited my best friend over, and you know what..she actually liked my house, after all the negative things. so who cares, you are young, live your life. People accumulate things after many years, you've just started.
2007-03-11 11:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain when your friends come over, if they don't accept it thats their problem. When I lived with my parents it was like that for me, both my parents smoked so I never wanted people over because I was so self concious about it.
I realized that friends are accepting, they like you for who you are not what you have. And I'd just give them a heads up, "oh myparents smoke, that ok?" and they just accepted it.
You can't help being self concious, but you don't have to let it restrain your social life.
2007-03-11 18:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be ashamed of your home or family. The people you choose as friends should be understanding and supportive. If you are worried as to what they think maybe you are afraid that they won't really be your friends....Food for thought....
2007-03-11 18:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter what kind of house you live in.
Your friends should be friends with you not for what you have or have not got.
2007-03-11 18:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋