whenever my bf has a problem he runs away from it. now he is running away from me and i cant let it happen. we are not a problem, but he has convinced himself that we are so that he can run away and feel safe. i dont understand it, clearly his thinking is off. the point is, he wants to stop being with me, bc he has convinced himself that his rough life (drugs, bad childhood, etc) will be better without me, even though i have made his life better. and im not saying that to be cocky. i raise his spirits when hes down and help him get help he needs with councelors etc. i have been his rock, and he is pushing me away bc he just wants to run away from his problematic life instead of confronting it.
in relationships, when one person pushes away, the other holds on tighter. that is what saves the relationship, isnt it?
what can i do to convince him that he cant run away from me, from his problems. im afraid without me he could end up in serious trouble in his life.
2007-03-11 11:25:36 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he's running and you're trying to catch him but he won't let you, there's not much else you can do. Somehow we feel responsible if another person has problems and they are at risk of hurting themselves or someone else, but there comes a point in time where they really need to fix these problems themselves. They have to do it for themselves and they have to do it alone. In a relationship when one person pushes away and the other holds on tighter, what that's called a codependent relationship and that's not good either.
2007-03-11 11:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by katmusic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u could do it the old fashioned way and have sex wit him or u could b determined and stay wit him even against his wishes.U could also tell him that others throughout the world have worser problems then him.
2007-03-11 18:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by Colts Chick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋