2007-03-11 11:19:26 · 22 answers · asked by forbewe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not simply "discover" you are in love with another.
Put all of that energy into your marriage & kids.
2007-03-11 11:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol love or lust..
Look, sorry but u need to put your "needs" and "wants" on the back burner, ur married, u made a life long commitment, and u had children with this man, and if for no other reason these childrens needs , need to come first..
And im wondering if u really know what being "in" love is, because real love isnt something that happens over night, and i cant see how u could possibly build a bond of actual love if ur home with ur husband and kids.. so i think ur infactuated and possibly in lust with someone else but i doubt its anything more then that..
2007-03-11 18:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's love and not lust? Maybe you're bored with your spouse.....Before you jump ship, have an affair, or stay in what might be a stale relationship, talk to your wife/husband. or just try to spice up what might be a boring, non-existent, or routine sex life. If lust is not what's really happening then really think about what you have, what you (might) want, and think of any consequences that might result from your decision. Divorce is messy...and with kids, YIKES! Do you still love your spouse? Are you relatively happy? I say relatively because I don't know anyone with a perfect life. If you are, are you willing to risk that? I don't condone affairs, but if you do decide to venture..BE SAFE!!!! And talk to close friends or family, they know you best! And will give you better advice because they know you a hell of a lot better.
2007-03-11 18:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by morebidd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of this relationship quick! Until you are away from this person for a while, you will never know if this is love or lust! You are doing so much damage to your family right now! You owe it to your spouse and the children to either commit or get out. The children are the ones who suffer in the end.
Take sex totally out of the picture and see what it is about this other person that really makes you tick. Place yourself in real-life situations with this person, ie; sick kids, no money, in-laws, bills, groceries, rent . Then make your decision.
2007-03-11 18:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by mandarn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think long and hard about what you truly want. Is this just a fling that won't result in anything long-term? Do you love your spouse? You really need to mull this one over and make the right decision. I'm not saying you have to stay with your spouse but make sure the decision you make is something you can live with, forever. You often don't get a second chance and most everyone finds out the grass isn't greener on the other side. Please choose wisely.
2007-03-11 18:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't just discover your inlove with someone else, you fell in love with someone else because you left the marriage vow..and were not happy at home..what do you do..look at the big picture is it worth a little more attention and a little more affection? anyone can spice up a marriage ANYONE can all you need to do is be opened minded and get ideas a little candle light nice dinner and a good night can happen and nice words..so if you have found your inlove with someone else..you became bored with the one WHO LOVES YOU ..
2007-03-11 18:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you are being unfaithful to your spouse, and may actually be teaching your children that it is not a problem to be unfaithful for starters. If a divorce occures, you will be splitting your family apart, and your children are the ones who will suffer the most being bounced back and forth between parents. It causes a lot of emotional problems for the children, and they are the ones you should be protecting the most. your wants and desires should take a back seat when there are children in the picture. If you are going to be unfaithful in your marriage, might I suggest that you wait until the children have grown up and moved out.
2007-03-11 18:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research proves that in this condition you must understand you are in a for a tough time. The love is pure poppycock and would fade the moment you indulged it. Imagine humping this person. A minute after your orgasm you would ask what you had done. Most of the attraction comes from the fact that you are restricted in a marriage. That is what marriage is. You pay that price for security, love, and regular sex.
2007-03-11 18:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Wang Hung 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main issue you have is you shouldn't have been looking in the first place it doesn't make you look very good next you have to ask yourself how will your kids and family look at you.
You might need to take a good hard look at yourself and see if you like who you are. For what happens it's simple your labeled a adulter and take the chance of losing everything that's important to you especially your self respect and the respect of your friends and family. Now ask yourself is it worth it? I might suggest marriage counseling.......
2007-03-11 18:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You reality check yourself and realize that you allowed yourself to fall for someone else and that now you need to get your emotions in line and stop. If you fell for another person that means there is something not right in your marriage - which would indicate that you should get into couples counseling asap.
2007-03-11 18:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋