i am 27 and have two children,my partner is 48 and he has no energy,works from home and he is never intrested?

Question

in sex,my confidence is affected and i feel very unatractive even tho other people say otherwise...i want out really but need to find out how?

Answer 1

You can't judge yourself through the eyes of others. If you know you have it, then don't worry. Plus, you must know at 48 his sex drive will decrease and when he does have sex it will knock him out for 8 hrs.

Questions like that will have male home wreckers coming out of the woodwork.

Answer 2

Talk to your partner! Hon, he IS 48 (a year younger than I) so of course he doesn't have the energy he once did nor is his sexual drive what it once was. It takes a little more "something" to get us going sometimes. Also be aware that this could also be an indication of a medical problem. Low testosterone can cause lack of desire as can depression, neither of which are that rare in men his age. Also, it sounds as if this was all about sex to you, and not about a relationship. I don't read anything in your question about loving the guy and wanting to figure out how to get the spark back. Maybe he senses that and is being distant or, who knows, maybe it was just about sex to him too and now he's tired of YOU ..... could happen you know no matter how hot you think you are. Like I said above I'm 49 and FYI my female "partner" of four years is 33 so I'm no stranger to this situation. Decide WHAT you want out of this relationship and go from there. If you're looking for something long term then you need to do some serious talking with the man, even some professional counseling. If not, then do you both a favor and just move on. Whatever you do just don't play any passive aggressive games to trick him or change him or get back at him. Time to be an adult. It's a pity children are involved.

Answer 3

You are saying that you are 27, and your Partner is 48, so, he is older than you by 21 yrs., and you both have two children together? your problem is, that he is not interested in sex, and you feel unattractive, as you say, because of that. What were you thinking when you decided to Marry him, that his Sex drive was going to always be the same? or you just did not think that it would diminshed as he grew older. Now when he cannot perform well in bed, you want out, because as you say you are 27 yrs. old and that is when a female is in need of more Sex from her Partner. I think that you would be doing your Mate a favor, if you do decide to leave him, because if he does try to meet your sexual needs as often as you want them, with time he will not be able to perform, and he might end up getting his self esteem, hurt very badly. Find some way to explain to him why you want to end the relationship you have with him, and here's hoping he will be able to understand your reason for leaving him. As, for the children, please tell him that he can be a part of their lives, and can come and see them, as often as he wants to. I hope for the sake of the kids there will be no discord between you both. There is no nice way to end a relationship, even though, there might be alternatives to his problem, he can go see a doctor and the doctor can prescribe Viagra or any other drug that might be suitable to his organism, so, maybe you might try that or you do not want alternatives, you want him to leave because maybe you want a guy that is younger than your Mate, and can perform better than he does, I might be wrong, but who knows better, but you.

Answer 4

Are there more problems or is it just his lack of libido? If that's all, that's not really a good reason to split, since you'll find someone who is horny but a jerk in every other way. And that'll feel even cheaper. You need to communicate how you're feeling no matter how difficult. And don't lose confidence over this, you may be very attractive and he may still see you as attractive, but just has a low sex drive. It's uncommon but it happens.

Answer 5

Maybe your husband needs TLC.
It sounds as if he needs a rethink on his diet and an exercise routine when his energy levels pick up. Salads give energy, so 2 meals consisting of veg and three fruits a day, Add pulses, lentils are cheap and easy to cook, to soya proteins. Protein powder twice a day, mix with half a mug of hot water then add the milk, and make him take multivitamins and or B complex, vitamin c, dlpa tablets, magnesium, calcium and don't forget zinc and selenium which men must have for their libido. For you, why don't you take up a massage course and then massage hubby and then when he picks up teach him how to massage you. Maybe after all that he might feel like talking about how he feels.

Answer 6

I am 47 and my sex drive is constant and unsatiated. Maybe your husband is having a problem. Have you talked to him about this? Do you still love him? Do you feel that if he were more interested in you the relationship could still work? Don't give up on this, and your children having their father, until you have really tried to work through this problem. You can always walk away but once you start that process of divorce or seperation, it is difficult to put back in the bottle all the pain and upset that gets out. Seriously consider all the options before you start down that path of ending it. Maybe he just needs Viagra.

Answer 7

You could do much better than him, if you are only 27 you could have a young attractive hulk, but you have an aging old man instead. I am living with a man 8 years younger than me and he looks the same age and I think us ladies should all take younger men to boost our ego and make ourselves feel attractive. The guy I am with is very tactile and always give me complements and makes me feel attractive, I would never go out with an older man because it is so much more fun being with an attractive younger man. You must try it, or at least take a man your own age rather than spend your twenties with some boring old fart. The young man I am with has too much energy, works long hours and still has time for me, it is time I think you trade in the old for the young.

Answer 8

Do you have a Job? If not that would be your first step. You cannot make it in the world and raise 2 children without money. Also you married someone old enough to be your Father, and he works alot and is gonna be tired. If hes a Good Husband and father other than not wanting Sex as much as you do, Why not buy yourself a Good Vibrator to tide you over, when your husband is too tired to comply. Check out www.ginas alltime pleaser or www.adamandeve.com, you can buy some great toys on there. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

at 27, ya you will have a stronger sex drive then your partner. 48 is getting up there in age and sex isn’t on top of his list.

Remember, some jobs are stressful and stress kills the sex drive. Nagging about it will only make matters worse.
So don’t think its you. Sex just isn’t as important at 48.

Since you want to get out. I personally think you should. 48 is too old for a 27 year old. It’s like dating your dad.

Getting out of any relationship is hard. You will just have to talk to the guy and tell him it’s not working out, you’re not happy and you think its best to split up.

Best of luck!

Answer 10

Can you save some money and get an apartment? If so, then you should sit him down and let him know you are unhappy. Is he seeing someone else? When I was reading your story this was the first thing that came to mind. Don't stay in a relationship that is not working. Be strong.

Answer 11

You need to open up the line of communication between you and your partner. Then tell him exactly what you want and how you aren't happy with current situation. Give him reasonable time to get his act together before you end relationship. I would also suggest asking your partner to see a doctor if he is experiencing male performance issues.