I have a small group of friends all with different personalities. Im 27 we went out last night and one of my friends verbally attacked me in a club because i didnt go and get my drink from the bar. When i just asked her to stop shouting at me she carried on so i walked away. Another friend then got involved i went home on my own. Then the two of them came to my house and i had been fell out with the other friend recently it was my fault i had misunderstood. So the one who verbally attacked me lives across the road (nightmare) and she came in my house saying sorry shouting at me to be honest and tell the other person things that i had said whilst we were fell out! She had said things to me but i didnt want to stoop to her level and do the same! The thing she was saying had been made up i had said other things but she wouldnt let me speak. She then left my house telling my husband to leave me as i am a lazy b"***h who cannot be a++++sed to keep my house clean!
What can i do?
2007-03-11 10:47:18 · 19 answers · asked by Missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i sent an olive branch of a text asking if she wanted to talk to me (as i didnt get chance the night before) she text back saying no im too upset with you i said im upset too. The other friend seems to be making things worse....help ... am i going insane?
2007-03-11 10:50:22 · update #1
Thank you so much for all your answers its nice to get an impartial view although hard to put all the details into a question! x
2007-03-12 10:23:26 · update #2
It looks like your so-called friend was looking for a audience and to make herself look good in front of everyone else. It could be that she is jealous of you and looking for some attention from everyone around her.
I would confront this person alone and tell her that her behavior really hurt you and that the arguement with your other friend is between the two of you, no one else.
If she cant accept you for the person and the choices that you make maybe the two of you shouldnt be friends anymore. A real friend will respect you. I wouldnt allow her back in my home or put up with her disrespect.
Talk to your other friend that you made up with and tell her that you hope that your friendship wont be affected by the other ladys accusations. Dont start anything about her, but let it be known you wont tolerate being accused and mistreated like that either. good luck.
2007-03-11 10:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt think u were going daft or anything like that. I wouldnt worry about it too much either. Your friend that had a go at you for not getting a drink from the bar sounds as if she has a real problem with immaturity! The other one sounds a little small-minded too. So if I were you I'd concentrate on your family, make sure everything is good there and that no-one can stir things for you... and just sit back and wait for these two to fall out, and then you can turn each of them away as they knock on your door for forgiveness!! Guess who's laughing now? Thats right...YOU!!!
2007-03-11 12:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends can be so bad when there have got lots of drink inside them and there do say some bad name call has well hun
just let thing calm down for a week or so and try again but i don't think its your fault at all
and tell your husband just not to bother with them
if these was your friends right it doesn't not matter if your house is untidy or not, when i go and see my friends they say sorry my house is untidy i tell them I'm not here to see your house I'm here to see you that what friends are like not like yours hun sorry
2007-03-11 11:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her a few days then invite her round for a coffee, if she comes round sit down and try sort it out,
if she starts yelling and stuff try to keep calm as they say a kind word turns away wrath
in my experience the calmer and nicer you are to a person the better,
as this helps the other person to calm down too,
like wise if you have a confrontation with a person who does,nt like you in my own opinion no matter how much you dislike them be nice to them as this can make the other person feel guilty and then no blame is left on you no matter what the situation,
NO your not going mad, similar things like this has happened me too
you offered the olive branch,
as they say the ball is in there court
good luck to you sweetheart !
i really hope you get this resolved
if it does,nt get resolved
remember
there's lots of nicer people out there
who are more worthy of your friendship
XXX
2007-03-11 11:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by swanning66 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not stay at home, clean the house & look after your husband. He should be your best friend & forget the others.
You might enjoy doing things with your husband.
Try to change your home life & spice it up a bit & enjoy life with him.
You will be a lot happier
Best wishes
2007-03-11 14:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
treat people the same way as they treat you....as for that so called mate...it's time to find someone who's genuinely true, seems this one ain't, what she needs is a good belt in the gob, if she calls again tell her to bog off and not come back....move on and don't stress over someone who don't care about you...she sounds like a drunken loud mouth to me, time for you to choose a better class of mates my dear
2007-03-11 11:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get revenge. Ruin her life. Or, forget her and play it cool make news friends. Find info about her and use come-backs if she ever tries to verbal attack you. Fight back!
2007-03-11 10:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it dont stoop to her level. I hope your husband told her where to go. Dont hang around with them any more they will soon come running back.
2007-03-11 11:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Punch the stuck up cows lights out.
2007-03-11 10:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by taxed till i die,and then some. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋