I have a personnel question for women about sex, and the pain I've been having.?

Question

I've been having sex with my now husband for 6 years now and about 2 years ago I started getting a very bad pain. Sometimes I get a bad cramping when he pushes to fare. Other time (this is what happens most of the time) I feel a burning feeling almost before he even gets it in. It's so painful at times that I have to make him stop. It's really starting to cause complications with our sex life. I'm at the point where I don't really care about sex anymore. I never get in the mood, no matter how much he tries to get me there. I just have this thing in my mind that says it’s going to hurt and I don't even want to go there. We have a great relationship and we are very happy so I don't want sex to be the thing that makes our relationship bad. I have a doc apt next month so I plan on bring this up then. But for now, is there anyone else with this problem? I really could use some advice on what to do.

BTW: I'm 22 and he is 25..so we should be having lots of sex...lol

Thanks Amber, I'm not looking for someone on yahoo answer to tell me whats wrong, but someone might of had the same thing happen and maybe they can tell me what they did. I've tried almost everything...it does not hurt when I'm drunk...but I'm not willing to drink everynight so I can have sex. lol

I'm not comfortable with masturbating, I never have been. It does not do anything for me...I need my husband.

Could a yeast infection last 2 years??

I was 17 and he was 20

I just had a pap test, it came back normal. He is the only person I've ever had sex with.

I'm on the shot and have been for quite some time (hummm about 2 years...could that be it?) But I got off it for about 2 months, I just got back on it a month ago.

Answer 1

You poor thing! That must be absolutely miserable! People on here can give you advice but no one knows your body. Are you lubricating enough? Have you tried oral sex first? If you have tried everything, than there really isn't much left to do but talk to the doc. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

Sorry, but I'm doing the math in my head - you've been having sex with your husband since you were 16, and he was 19? Wow.

Anyway, while this certainly may just be a problem with positioning, or even lubrication - I would strongly suggest that you see a gynecologist for a pap smear and pelvic exam. National recommendations are that a woman who is sexually active get a pap smear every year - and if you are in a high risk category (early age sex, multiple partners) you should probably get one every 6 months.

That being said - your symptoms are concerning for: infection - could be bacterial infection and inflammation causing pain. Or possibly, you've developed an allergy to your husband's sperm (the burning symptom made me think of that). Lastly, and I don't want to scare you, but I'd also be concerned for cervical cancer - which is why you need those pap smears. See if you can get in to see your doctor earlier, and let her know if you've had abnormal bleeding, bleeding after sex, a new type of vaginal discharge, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Because sex can be painful for many reasons, and several factors could be causing the experience of pain during sex, finding the solution can be a bit like solving a mystery (a very painful mystery). Not all of these suggestions will apply to everyone, but here are some steps to take
* When did sex start to hurt (has it always hurt)?
* When does the pain begin (is it as you’re getting excited, only during penetration, related to orgasm)?
* Where do you feel the pain (is it in one specific area, or more general)?
* Are there still things you can do sexually that don’t cause pain?
If you can masturbate without pain, that is both a helpful thing to know, but it can also provide you with much needed release while you figure out how to resume sex with your partner without it hurting. Using masturbation to explore sexual pain is particularly good because you don’t have to worry about a partner poking you the wrong way. You can be as gentle (or as rough) as you want to be, and you’re always in control. If penetration with your partner is painful, you may want to use a vibrator or dildo (with lots of lubricant) to explore penetration with masturbation, to discover if it feels the same or different.
Use plenty of lubrication.One of the most common reasons for painful sex is lack of lubrication. There are all sorts of reasons women experience vaginal dryness, but using a personal lubricant can be an easy and effective way to treat this problem and eliminate a major cause of painful sex.
Communicate with your partner.It can be difficult to talk about sex at the best of times, even for couples who have been together for years. When it comes to talking about a difficult sexual issue, the communication can get even trickier. But communication is key to resolving painful sex. Even if the cause is entirely physical, and will go away with treatment, it’s still important to talk with your partner about the pain you’re experiencing and figure out other ways for both of you to satisfy your sexual needs while you are getting treated. This can actually be one of the positives of experiencing sexual pain, it can force couples to break down communication barriers and eventually lead to a better sex life than before the pain was experienced.
Experiment with different sexual positions. For some pain during sex happens as a result of pressure on particular parts of the body. It may be putting pressure on certain joints hurt, or that penetration at a certain angle is painful. Try exploring different sexual positions , and see if this alleviates some of the pain.
Consult a doctor or other healthcare provider. If you can, in most cases it is worth talking with your doctor about this. Even if the problem clears up (or seems to clear up) pain during sex can be a symptom of other issues, and knowing this can alert your doctor to other questions they may want to ask.

Answer 4

well i somewhat can relate to u but after i had sex it would burn when i had to go pee...it was a urinary tract infection. but the thing is everytime i would have se with my boyfriend he'd use condoms and i always got these UTIs. i even went to the hospital because it hurt so much, they just gave me antibiotics and it did help but i'd be afraid to have sex. then we tried again using different condoms and once without condoms and i was perfectly fine. i actually found i was allergic to condoms that say spermicide on them. i dunno if u guy are using condoms but maybe u r allergic to something now.

Answer 5

A constant yeast infection could be the problem if it feels like sand paper.

Answer 6

Yes, a yeast infection can last that long if untreated. it will hurt to have sex too with a yeast infection.

Answer 7

hopefully you are comfortable masturbating???if not i suggest you persue this great pleasure experment indulge yourself if this hurts also u need a doctors help---infection???