my friend wants me to sing with her in the talent show...she has a totally different voice than me but she can't sing that good either...i dont want to tell her she's a bad singer so i told her we shouldnt sing to gether but by ourselfs because i wasn't good at the song she wanted me to sing and that we wasn't soundin good together. I told her that and she isn't mad at me but i still don't want her to make a fool of herself if she can't sing!! wat do i do??!!??
2007-03-11 10:08:43 · 14 answers · asked by JoeJonasLover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe help her pick out a song that is better for her voice? if she insists then you really can't do much though.
2007-03-11 10:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have a talent. if singing isn't really hers what is? is she a bad singer on all songs or just this one particular? are you the only one of her friends who thinks she can't sing? if you are a true friend and really don't want her to make a fool of herself and if she REALLY can't carry a tune on any song, you owe it to her and to yourself to be honest with her. Just be gentle with her feelings and always follow a negative with a positive. when you tell her that maybe singing isn't really her thing, suggest what is...maybe acting out a skit or doing a dance routine to a fave song...or maybe she's a stand up comic or a gymnast....encourage her by reminding her where she excells. she might be hurt and/or angry at first but she should come around. just keep reminding her that you care about her and that is the only reason you feel it necessary to bring this to her attention. Its like when your fly is undone or you have something hanging out of your nose---you want your friends to tell you these things too, right.
Or you could also plan a practice run with some others, including a trusted teacher/adult. Of course, tell that teacher/adult your opinion and ask for their true assessment after the practice. Adults can sometimes say things in a way that makes it seem not so negative.
good luck
2007-03-11 17:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her in what she wants to do. It never hurts to try. Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so are opinions about singing. Just make sure you are her biggest fan, there to back her up when she sings. Clap for her, tell her you are proud of her for doing her best. It takes more guts to try than to give up. She can only improve if she does not give up. Quitters never win. She may learn some techniques and improve along the way. Share with her what you are working on and trying to improve upon, she may ask you to help her with things and if you see something she is better at, ask her to help you. Your only obigation is to be the best friend you can be. Be honest if she asks you, though. Yet, don't hurt her unnecessarily. Let her know that you want to see how you rate all alone.
2007-03-11 17:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is do this: Borrow someones camcorder and video tape you singing alone, her singing alone and then the two of you singing together. Play it for her family your family and get their opinion and ask for help to decide if you should sing together. That way everyone else is giving an opinion and she wont be upset with you. Take care Heather
2007-03-11 17:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have fun.....so what if she makes a fool of herself, she may not and the worst thing is to be shot down before trying. Listened to any of the current music lately...seems she isn't the only one who cannot sing or has talent, yet they still made it.
2007-03-11 17:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she only willing to sing? Could she possibly be persuaded to do a dance or act out a scene instead? Maybe you could get a group of people together for something. Good luck - this is a really touchy situation.
2007-03-11 17:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by anyareed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that is tough. You have to be strong. Sit down and have a talk with her. Tell her how much you care about her. You don't want to hurt her. But you have to tell her something. Tell her you don't want to be the one to tell her. But your voice really isn't strong enough. Tell her maybe she should take some singing lessons. Tell her you want to do that with her. Support her. Let the teacher let her know if she will never be able to pull it off.
2007-03-11 17:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by bubbly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about singing a different song that you both like
2007-03-11 17:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not help her pick out a song that inhances her voice. A true friend like yourself wouldn't let their friend be the laughing stock of the talent show.
2007-03-11 17:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by loveizcrazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend likes to sing, but apparently she is tone deaf or sings like a T-Rex in heat. Someone else should tell her. True, it is best to hear from a friend, but in this case I don't think so.
2007-03-11 17:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that neither of you have the talent to win the show and you don't want to make a fool of yourself.
2007-03-11 17:13:27 · answer #11 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋